Short answer is absolutely not. In a safe, consenting relationship/environment, I think that it can be quite the beautiful thing if the man is secure enough to admit what it is that he wants/needs in a given situation. Some like to be dominated while others like to switch it up every now & then just for fun. Personally, I had considered myself 100% Top for for as long as I can remember, exceptions being some very fun play when I get as young, but not as an adult. My wife has been taking spankings for our entire almost 19yr marriage. About 7 yrs ago, we were on vacation at a lake house and we decided to go up to bed for some fun. She loves her good girl spankings for I had her bare and over my knee. After warming her up good & plenty, I was about to climb on top of her when she smacked my bottom. It gave me the strangest twinge and I got the sudden urge to be over her lap!!!! I asked her to sit with her back on the headboard as I climbed over her lap. She was more then eager to warm me up and I was VERY pleased with the results. After a very passionate session, we talked about what had happened. She said she loved being the one in charge for once and she really got off on it, so we incorporated it more into our play. Soon, I felt the urge to not only be played with, but firmly disciplined by her. We discussed what the differences were in play and discipline and we put it in practice. 7yrs later and we are BOTH two rather well-spanked & well-behaved people. I don’t feel any less a man for my wife sometimes coming home from a hard day’s work, either before or after I’m home for work, taking me in the room, baring my bottom and wearing me out. We haven’t been any closer than we have since then and it’s been soooooo much fun to explore. I trust her and she trusts me and I don’t feel emasculated by her turning me over her knee or over the bed for the strap, paddle or switch. I know I deserve it and so does she when it’s her turn. That’s just how I feel about it. |