Polls

Blimp, while hottmae's post might be a bit more sarcastic than it might have needed to be, there is quite a bit of truth to it......at least when applied to the total number of folks who "walk through the virtual library door" each day. There are a LOT of people who come here. Of those there are several.... though not many .......'regulars' who post to the forum. But even on the forum, when compared with other forums, there is a tendency towards personal reservation. Very few folks here really open up and bare their intimate sides, and it seems that when they do, there is not much interest in what is revealled. The result is a polite, often humorous, always informative forum that manages to remain quite impersonal.

This observation does not diminish the talent, efficiency, or dedication of the staff here. This is one of the finest sites I've ever had the privilege to be a part of. I have nothing but respect for flopsy, Februs and many others. But......it is a bit cool inside. I've been here a while now and only recently did I happily (though somewhat accidentally) make a connection with a regular here that went beyond professional appreciation or critique. But I would be the first to say that the temperature here is not the responsibility of the administrative staff. They have quite enough to manage just keeping the place running. So no one should make the mistake of assigning an implication of fault for what I feel is a genuine observation.

Perhaps it's cultural? I am not overly familiar with British culture though it is quite common to hear about the reserved nature of British folks versus the "in-your-face" "heart-on-their-sleeve" "tell-all" Americans. The explanation may be that simple. Especially when the written word is being evaluated without benefit of expression, gesture, or eye-contact.

Lastly, I will say on my own behalf that while I understand the Library is intended to be a collection of stories and the forum a meeting place for writers and readers, I find it astounding that the "smalltalk" section of the forum is nearly devoid of actual spanking discussion. I mean..........this IS above all else a SPANKING fetish site, and yet the one topic that rarely gets any frisky dialogue is spanking itself. The only way spanking is ever discussed is how it relates to various media, or in frequent flirtacious teases for various members to deserve spankings. The glaring exception continues to be real day-to-day life. If anyone has a theory as to why that is, I would love to hear it, because it truly amazes me and runs contrary to any other spanking-related forum I have ever participated in.

Now, I feel I have stated my opinion in a way that is clear, honest, and still respectful to the administration here and the participants also, but if you feel otherwise, feel free to lay into me as well. I have always believed that people can have different views and still respect each other, but too often a differing view is seen as proof of someone 'not belonging'.

Blimp, I apologize if it seemed I was mocking anyone. Too many years as a cocktail waitress has made me a bit sarcastic. I certainly do appreciate the authors putting their time in here, especially since I barely have time to do my laundry.

I happen to like the Library just the way it is. I was not looking for a dating site or a personal connection when I joined, it was to read and write stories, that's about it. I can tell by reading other stories what the preferences of most writers are and their personalities show in how and what they about.

That is why I vote against any polling on the forum, it would tend to get personal about my preferences etc which I prefer to keep to myself and others around my actual life, not hundreds of virtual people. As to "talking" about spanking on the forum, just read the writers stories, they do all the talking I need.

I do not find the library cold, it is whatever I make it every time I enter the site, sometimes I comment on stories, or on the forum and sometimes I just read and say nothing. Just like in a real library you might happen to stumble across a friend there or get to know a person or two by mere chance, or even by design if you pick a certain individual. There are no large group discussions on what one reads in the library, if there is it is off in a side room, (or in this case another virtual site) where one's go for the specific purpose of discussing individual ideas on what they read. There are spanking sites where ones can go to talk about their individual spanking, I do not think it belongs in the library and would tend to avoid any serious discussion about an individual if it did happen to occur.

It takes a lot of guts for many to even join the library and they want to remain unknown to the vast majority. To think others would want to discuss personal issues that might identify us to others could be downright scary to some. If this site ever became a "personal site" I would consider leaving or at least going under another name and never be heard from again. I would hope Flopsy and Februs and the rest of the admin crew keep us exactly where we are, in my own personal opinion it is just right.

I think it takes courage to write and post in places like this. I know it did when I first started doing it. I bare a little bit of my soul in my stories.

If Februs pays out for polling software, not only would that eat into the Library's sherry budget but also into Miss Thrashbottom's wages...then who would there be to discipline people who keep demanding polls and paddle the derrieres of people who complain that this is not a friendly, warm and wonderful site?

I completely agree with what jools said!!

That is obvious. Any poll would just attest it. You always have a unique group of people, when reading (writing) is involved. You can go to any library in the western world and take the demographics of the frequent readers. Than you know, who is using this library as well.



Age: 40-60, male: 65 %, female 35 %, lifestyle: middle class, well setted, good educational background. Role of spanking: 80 to 90 % no role in real life, role of spanking stories: Take the frequency of using the library as a parameter.


I would think that the frequent readers of this library don't mind to find some stories where children are involved, because otherwise they wouldn't be frequent readers. But what does that proof? All good libraries provide a variety of books and I don't feel annoyed that 96 % of this books are of no interest to me.

May I ask why it is important to you, to know more about the readers? Would you change your writing style according to the majority taste of some anonymous readers?

My humble and personal opine is that this is first and foremost a library... There are hundreds of forums, which I, again personally, avoid like the plague and have no need of.

It is nice to have the ability for an amount of interaction on here but it is also nice that those that wish to can come on, read and then go away again.

I think you can get out of this site what you put in. If you wish to talk to people and get to know them, then you have the opportunity to do so but equally if you wish to stay anonymous, that too is fine.

As far as I can see we don't need polls, any question can be asked without the need to give people the possible answers surely?

I don't need to have a poll... do you agree...?

A) Yes
B) No
C) Don't care

You can all post with your own thoughts without being given set options.

Plus of course, most importantly, booze and chocolate is a more important way to spend Febs' dosh than add ons

I am sorry if I sounded a bit grumpy. I never have time to do my laundry either. Thank goodness the attractive Swedish au pairs we employ here at Blimp Towers have plenty of time on their hands!

I suppose it depends what you are looking for. I don't like too much soul baring in public personally but it's good that you found someone you can relate to on a one to one level, kd. After all we are all looking for something different. I don't find it at all impersonal here, I think we have good fun and we discuss spanking literature, grammar, ice cream, single malts, in fact all the important things. The most important thing is the actual library itself and that is superbly run thanks to Februs and his efficient (when sober at least) librarians.