KatiePie:
I want to be spanked and I want it to hurt and I like being able to feel the marks left for a day or two but I don't want to be injured. I really wouldn't want ever to be tied up. I just want to be treated like a naughty little girl and put over someone's knee and spanked... Oh and people talking about having a safe word. I don't really want that because that makes it seem too fake. If I say stop I don't actually want someone to stop right away, I want them to continue just a little bit longer.
I feel much the same as
KatiePie I want to be treated as a naughty girl, not naughty woman, I personally feel that not being tied down and having to stay in place is part of the 'naughty girl' scene. I get spanked otk then bent over a soft back support pillow but equally Himself knows me very well and can tell immediately if somethings wrong, my 'something's wrong' voice is very different from my 'oh please stop that hurts!' voice.
When I write Charlotte and James stories I try to make them believable if quite harsh. Occasionally when the scene demands it He does over punish her. But I want to describe their relationship as it develops and grows and Charlotte is a rebellious disruptive teen, perhaps slightly disturbed - i haven't decided yet - and kicks back against any rules so having her is a strict military school is a recipe for disaster and chaos - and that happens. But I wouldn't want to be spanked, caned and belted the way she is, yes some of her personality is based on me though.
At one time I had a Dom who started beating me for little or no reason and He had so cowled me that i took it and only escaped the relationship when i found myself flinching when he scratched his nose, this was NOT Himself.
It's one thing to think you want to be 'thrashed within an inch of your life' but often in reality you don't actually really want that, you want the session to FEEL like you are being 'thrashed within an inch of your life' as often we have to go about our Real Life outside the scene for most of us without giving away the fact we like getting spanked etc to others.
Sometimes having to interact with 'Real Life' can be a real pain and can really suck!