A reader commented on one of my stories, The Penitent, asking, "One question: how common is it, do you think, for a sub to actually want so severe a punishment?" While I didn't think it was a severe punishment at all, it does bring up an interesting question for the group.
I have no idea, really, if it is common or not to want to be punished severely. Offhand, I would think it would not be common, but as I have had only limited experience with other subs, I have no actual idea. It all depends, I suppose, on one's definition of "severe." What seems like an ordinary punishment to me might be horribly severe to someone else. For my own tastes, I want to actually be punished. I don't want to play; I don't want to enjoy it. And, for gosh sakes, don't give me a safeword. I hate pain. The moment you start whacking my bare butt and causing me pain, I'm going to be using the safeword. But for my own twisted psychological bent, I need that pain and I need to not be able to stop it regardless of my desires. I am not going to like it and I'm not going to enjoy it one bit, but that's the entire point of being punished. Later on, once the punishment has ended, that is when I am going to get enjoyment out of the feeling of a well-punished bottom and the feeling of heat that emanates from it. That will excite me and I will enjoy squirming as I sit down for however many days I feel a reminder of my punishment. Yes, I am fully aware that I have issues.
So, now to throw his question out to everyone, is it common for a sub to want a severe punishment? And, to the doms/dommes, would you rather give a playful punishment or a "real" one? I enclosed real in quotation marks because obviously just flipping someone over your lap without it being consensual in some way would be an act of abuse, so I mean "real" in terms of it being a consensual but genuine punishment rather than a play-spanking. |