Am I The Only One Who Feels This Way??

I feel for you...
All I can say is, talk openly with her.
& best of luck.
I'll hope for the best for you.

To Roni:
Much obliged.

To Everyone:
Thx for all of your thoughtful & insightful comments. I knew that I could get the best of advice from those who truly shared my interests.

Not my thing but it sounds rather complicated. How come there were so few SUBSCRIBERS responders?

To Tamlynn:

It's a very difficult situation we face with this query and many may have no answer. I certainly don't. The only thing we subscribers can really do is offer support as best we can. I would just imagine that all the non-subscribers feel the same, regardless of any attempt at an answer to this dilemma. It's a perplexing chain of events and I feel for him. I just hope he finds solace somehow, somewhere.

Were it me, and it's not, I would look for that special someone and change my life, but that's just me. Still, you only live once and believe you me, like it or not, time is finite and runs away quickly. I hate that but it's true. Oh, but ...

You can only live twice.

To Wooz:
I appreciate your input as well as everyone else who's weighed in on this issue. It is greatly appreciated. I am indeed @ a crossroads in my life & I'll deal with it accordingly. I don't want to lose my family over my preferences & whatnot, no matter what. The cost for me would be too high. I'll just keep trucking along, reading stories, wathcing videos & having spirited discussions about being a spanko. I love it because it's what thrills & excites me and I know I'm not alone in feeling this way.

((((hugs))))
...hope you find the right time to talk with her...
I'm sure she'd be fine with going back to being spanked...
50% is better than nothing...right???

I too am married to a vanilla, and although I did convince him to spank me for a while... he found it boring!

More recently I have discovered that I am a switch and no way would he let me spank him. So I have no chance of continuing my kink with my hubby!

For me, it has been a matter of deciding what is more important.. satisfying my kink in the real world... or keeping my family together. Of course, for me, the latter wins out. Even though there are no spanking parties in my country, I am fortunate that I can satisfy my kink by role-playing online, chatting to like minded people, participating in role plays in BL or by writing stories.

I think many of us are in the same boat. I hope you find your ideal outlet.

So, in my mind I would suggest continuing with your marriage in all of its practical aspects....finances, chores, interaction, etc. Just stop having any form of sex. Even stop hugs and kisses. If asked why, just say it's no big reason, you still love him................you just find those things.....................boring.

I know this sounds like I'm being snarky, but I'm really not. I'm just of the mind that the whole "I don't want to do that" response can easily cut both ways. And there is no reason why one activity is somehow more legitimate than another. It's time for reluctant vanillas to learn that.

Ever thought about getting one together yourself, maybe?

To kdpierre:
I feel where you're coming from and I think that we all here would agree that we'd like to have this kink shared with our S/O and then be accepting of it, but that's not our reality. My reality is that I'm in love with someone who really doesn't enjoy spanking and all the fun that can be had. That how I see it, not her. Would I rather want to have yummy sessions with her where she spanked to a delicious rosy red? Absolutely. I, however, cannot bring myself to deny her out of what amount to spite. It's just a virtual mine field trying to work this all out and all the while I'm going each day without a bottom over my knee to swat or me over a lap getting my bottom toast good & proper. So I come to forums like this to get my "fix"