The Psychological Importance of Panties

As everyone has said, pulling the panties down is part of the ritual, and part of the sub submitting to the dom ! Nice feeling as pants come down, knowing that a hard spanking is about to warm your bottom!i

It seems to me that in addition to the eroticism and the embarrassment, the baring of the bottom also has a symbolic and, if you like, moral significance. In many ways, spanking is about disclosure - about being caught, found out, revealed, losing face, being seen as one really is etc. To face a spanking is to be morally naked - there is nowhere to hide, no pretense possible, no way to feign that what is happening isn't happening. The baring of the bottom is the physical equivalent to this mental and moral undressing

Janine
It's funny you should ask. I've been thinking about writing a blog post or even a longer essay on this. I find it surprising that more people don't have experiences spanking vanilla women. For the purposes of this reply, I'll keep it short.

Establish teasing. One can use jokes or games. However you get there, make sure you get to say "oh I didn't know you were such a brat." or "I see you like to cause trouble." Most women respond positively to this, but it might just be the kind of woman that I tend to attract.

Step 2: Establish boundaries, then enforce a mild penalty. If a woman will let you hug or tickle her, she'll likely let you swat her with something light and harmless. At this point, a true brat will outright challenge you to spank her. For others, there is more work to be done.

Step 3: Take it up a notch. If you've kept the humor and fun, you can most likely swat a woman on the backside at this point. If it's not time yet, pick her up over your shoulder or swat her with a magazine or something. Again, a real brat will say something like "oh that was nothing" at this point.

It's just a push and pull this point that is very similar to certain kinds of flirting. I never knew where to find spanko women so I was just creating scenarios whenever I could. When I did find a spanking club, I was much younger than mostly everyone there, so I just kept on with vanilla women and had a lot of luck there.

Part of being disciplined is losing control ... it strips away a bit of being an adult ...

As Mr Wilde once nearly said, "I wish I had written that!"

Nicely put and very true!

I am especially drawn to this topic. I like Flopsy's description of "unwrapping," and perhaps for the Top, he is slowly unwrapping the prize for His undivided attention, and he can certainly savor the process. Why unwrap quickly if the goal is to savor? In a game of strip poker, how much fun is it if all the garments are shed at once? A child, who has little ability to defer gratification, might rip all the wrapping paper off a gift at once to discover what the gift is as quickly as possible. But an adult generally does so slowly, to build up the anticipation. And in the case of a spanking, the Top may want to build up anticipation for himself, and in the process, the girl whose bottom is to be punished goes through a special hell--a sweet hell--as her bottom is slowly bared.

Panties are a critical part of being spanked. As a bottom, I am always told what type to wear. How long they stay on is not up to me. I do prefer a warm up with panties, and most of the time that is what takes place. One of my disciplinarians had me stand in the corner after each stage or implement of the spanking panties around my cheek bottoms. Always having me think of what was next on his agenda; panties up and/or down. But when bare, is always the best and worst part of a spanking. And when the time comes to pull panties up, it seemed to make it feel a bit worse. But always thinking of the next time as well

Being the one getting spanked and a Male i for one prefer to be "unwrapped" and in layers, it allows for dialogue such as scolding and promises of spankings to come. In my experience women who are patient and methodical know how to give a proper spanking.

Having your panties taken down--especially for a spanking or caning--is highly embarrassing for all but the most exhibitionist women. I'm usually in the position of the spanker/caner taking panties down but I also have received discipline and know the sinking feeling of that last barrier slipping down my thighs. Those who have written that panties frame the bottom also make a good point. I would also suggest that for most women, it is just as embarrassing for another woman to take down your panties as for a man to do it. The spanker is seeing your most intimate places preparatory to castigating your bottom.

The baring of the backside is hugely significant for me; when I have my panties taken down, it really symbolises the removal of the last line of (albeit flimsy) defence.

Removing them myself is my preferred method, because I personally see this as an acceptance of my punishment, a deference to my spanker that I will bare myself. As well as taking them down, I think there is psychological significance in pulling them back up; a symbol that the punishment is over, that the account is settled, and that I can return to my 'normal', covered self.