Active spanking people ?

Oh, this is such a shame, to think of the lost opportunities. We fall in love and have to live in the real world, therefore hiding or suppressing our deepest desires.We have to respect our loved ones feelings and can't force them into things they are not prepared to accept. My husband was reluctant in the beginning, he was so worried about hurting me and the frustration I felt was crippling. He still can't understand that sometimes I WANT or NEED to be hurt! Thankfully for me, he has begun to enjoy the way things are going and certainly gets a lot out of our activities. I can't imagine meeting real people who are into real spanking, it has always been fantasy in the past. Now it's a reality in my life, at least in a limited way, but I am so grateful my husband is with me in this. I guess that's why we all need LSF so badly?
Love Elorac

That must have been deflating, opb . On the other hand, it's good to know that your wife is at least aware of your interest - so many people seem unable to even mention it to their vanilla partners, and that's understandable.

The internet has been a wonderful means for us all to hook up and be reminded of how many others share our interest - before it existed, growing up as a spanko could be a terribly isolating experience. But I think if you spend a lot of time on spanking sites, as I do, it can have the opposite effect - the world can start to seem more spanking-friendly than it actually is. It's easy to forget that many people, perplexing as it is to us, are not just uninterested but are terribly disturbed by this stuff.

THANKS to all for your support. I was going to delete the post because I immediately felt like I was whining. I'm glad I left it up.
Special thanks to Elorac, Bendover, and OhioMom for your direct response and support.
Opb, I like that "Neopolitan Marriage" description.
CrimsonKidCK thanks for the assignment to read Aesop about the dog.
Who has the helm of this rocking yacht? Thanks for the phrase, Bendover, and thanks to PeteSpankBoy for starting the thread. This participation significantly increases my use of forum. Happy Holidays.

Elorac, LSF has been a great refuge for me over your among a few other choice sites. For whatever reasons we all may have individually for being spankos, the fact remains that spanking has brought us all together in our very own community and we should take great care of it. Like it or not, spanking has become an integral part of each one of our lives and as such we all have come to grips with it one way or another. To me person, I think can be a great Escape from the real world if you are fortunate enough to have a partner or a network of playmates that you can trust to be able to indulge for awhile. As I have stated previously on this thread, I love my wife unconditionally and would lay down my life for her without giving it a second thought. I think Kenny that her bottom not only needs to be spanked, but spanked often and by someone that knows how. The reality is that it is so rare that I do get to indulge my fantasy that it seems as though there is no hope to have that more regularly in our relationship. I get so tempted at times to spank other willing women outside of the marriage, but I already know that she'd consider it cheating if she ever found out and want a divorce. I tell you all the truth, sometimes I do wish that I didn't have this craving that I do have to spank because maybe my. life would be better off if I was indeed a vanilla.

I wish I was far more active in the scene. Maybe one day.

When I read about people with no interest in even trying something 'new', I get a bit frustrated. I will not, absolutely ever, no matter what, live without spanking as part of my relationships. Period. And it's really not that hard to connect with someone interested....... at least it has not been my experience for the last 35 years. Dry spells? sure, but never for long.

Frankly frustrated spankos should tell a reluctant spouse that they are no longer interested in kissing. Kissing is unnatural. Normal sex is about procreation, so sticking your mouth on someone else's is just plain weird, makes no sense, and it's so disgusting! Spit and germs? The mouth is loaded with them. Just google it. Kissers are just sickos engaged in an unnatural, non-procreational, high risk sexual activity. Colds, flu, herpes, bad breath? At least spanking is hygienic.

I was never interested in kissing a woman on THOSE LIPS.....

Besides, it's a good reason to give a spouse or lover a spanking in making you sick.

I have attended the odd spanking party but unfortunately my wife who I love dearly just thinks spanking is just about hurting people. I love reading and when time allows writing spanking stories as well as watching spanking videos/DVDs/downloads. For me there must be an element of punishment where the young lady has little or no choice but to accept a spanking.I gave an example of this genre in my last story which was based on a DVD.

I am a active bottom, my last spanking was earlier this week. Mummy took me to task and blistered my bum until I was crying very real tears and begging mummy to stop, of course she didn't, well not until she was satisfied I had learned my lesson

Hmmmm. . . well, since appearing on the scene rather later in life, I've had many spankings. Most for "funishment", but some for actual discipline. While my Dom is in residence, spankings happen at least twice a day. . . . but when he's not. . . my bum remains an angelic white. Oh. . . and I have met lots of spankos. . most of them are simply wonderful people!