Do you regret having a spanking fetish ever ?

kdpierre
Your kind of relationship is exactly what I've been seeking. I'm extremely envious.

JOOLS

I have often wondered if my spanking fetish helped draw me towards hair dressing, given that a brush is my second favourite implement (after the hand). I do like the fact that i can browse through brushes in a shop and buy them quite innocently...even knowing one or two won't ever touch my head!

I don't regret it. I've been excited by spanking as far back as I can remember, and I wouldn't trade it for anything. It's one of the things that makes life worth living. I actually feel sorry for people who can't appreciate the beauty and eroticism of a well-spanked bottom.

Does any "vanilla" regret being turned on by breasts?

I think of it as a gift. Probably most people don't get turned on while cooking dinner, but I almost never grab a wooden spoon to stir the food without thinking - sometimes fleetingly, sometimes for several minutes - about spanking. I may or may not give my own ass a few spanks before getting on with the cooking. It sets the mood.

Seeing a bath brush in the drug store, or a tree with nice, whippy branches, hearing a sports commentator say "Team X is really spanking Team Y right now" . . . I can't imagine how much duller life would be without the constant stream of double entendre.

My wife isn't into it, but I've never minded that. I suppose that's because I enjoy a lot of sexuality that doesn't involve spanking, dominance, punishment, etc. And that I'm lucky enough to enjoy a good marriage with someone I love. And it doesn't hurt that she is willing enough to go over my knee every now and again during foreplay.

It sets me apart, to a certain extent, and is mildly embarrassing, but so are a lot of things about sex. That's why for the most part we keep them to ourselves, or our partners. In any case, it's a lot more mainstream than it was even ten years ago; while only a couple people know about my fetish, I don't think it'd be a big deal if anyone else found out. It's not like I'm doing anything dangerous, or illegal.

No, I'd never change it. And being that it's been going strong for over thirty years now, it doesn't seem like I have to worry about that.

It was never my decision. The seeds were handed to me at a very young age. It wasn't just the spankings but the frequency and the ritual of the entire process. At around 13 years old, I was hooked.

No regrets. I've been giving spankings from a very young age as I'm one of those "born" spankos. Few things in life match the joy of proper spanking chemistry. The mainstream world doesn't make it as easy as the random frivolous sexual encounter, but I think if you put yourself out there you can find partners. I think people on this board underestimate how many vanilla women are up for a spanking relationship because they haven't put it out there like that.

Hey baboon
Thank you so much for raising this. I recognise and share most of your situation. Not a week goes by but I wonder about this. Sometimes the answer is yes, sometimes an aggressive no. I do not regret the fetish itself in the slightest; the intensity of pleasure and reverie it has brought me is too great. I do regret not having found partners to share it with, and the inability to share crucial parts of myself with the woman I love.
But having said all that, there is nothing like frustration to stimulate the imagination!
"You think it horrible that lust and rage
Should dance attendance upon my old age.
They were not such a plague when I was young:
What else have I to spur me into song?" (Yeats)
Dr Keate

I think that admitting to having a spanking fetish - afer having denied or suppressed it for so long - has made me a more rounded tolerant person.

An example was this weekend when I was at a fund-raising event at a fetish club. I was in the "play area" having a sponsored foot massage (honestly!) and next to me a female couple had been using the flogging bench. What I was privileged to hear and see was the gentle way in which the top brought her partner slowly round from subspace, with hugs, kisses and whispers in her ear. At one time I'd have thought, gosh here's two lesbians getting their rocks off and (gasp!) one of them's NOT WEARING A BRA! Now I just saw two people acting out their love in a very touching way.


The previous event I went to half the guys there were actually cross-dressers, and even if they didn't play it was a refuge where they were treated as their female "alter ego" rather than some disgusting freak and weirdo.

That's not to say there's not personal feuds and spats going on, just like any other group of people with a common interest but diverse personalities, but I feel privileged to be a fairly small part of the spanko/fetish scene. And if I can't get to stuff, there's always the library!

Yes, quite often. Not so much the spanking fetish. That is the good part. But the underlying feelings of guilt (again not because of my desire to be spanked) and being insufficient which come along with the fetish.

No regrets at all what else would I do with my life?

How could I regret something that's given me - and, I hope, most of the girls I've been privileged to spank - so much pleasure?