A spanko who doesn't like pain?

how about ...BOTH?

it seems like you suggested it.

I've come across a few girls who loved to be spanked, but hated pain. Usually the best approach in that situation is to include more of a build-up to the spanking. Lecture her longer, remove her clothes more slowly, issuing corner time before and after her spanking, extended aftercare etc. During the spanking itself, a slow and deliberate yet gradually intensifying pace is usually good to employ. That way she can slowly adjust to the level of pain, even if the apex of intensity is just that of a medium spanking.

Oooh OTK, that all sounds wonderful.

Your entire spanking routine is just what we cowardly 'bottoms' dream of...a slow, sensual build up.

Great.

XxxxX

mini, in the end ... on the end ... we each have needs to be fulfilled ... and for some of us it's a taste of nasty medicine we have to hold our noses for

Hmm...well personally, VC, I always ended up holding my bottom!!!

Ditto for me !! I don't like the pain either. Too many bad memories.

It is pure joy reading all your comment on this thread. It is just what I needed to remind me why I am here. To me spanking will always be an act of love, no matter how harsh it is, as long as it is what both spanker and spankee need and want. Always Safe - Sane and consensual!! The length of this thread and the size of the entries tells me, that we are on to something that is very important to us. Thank you Mini for starting it, and to all of you for reminding me why I am here at LSF.

What about girls who HATE to be lectured? hehe But otherwise what you say is sound advice. A slow build up prevents pain and enables the bottom to take a harder spanking.

And TBH Mini, if you think you shouldn't be here then neither should I! Not only do I detest being lectured I abhor pain and with that, most implements. To me spanking is just foreplay and that is the extent of my kink as a bottom so I guess I am not really a spanko or even kinky per say, I just enjoy a variety of sensations in the act.... an adventurous partner is the problem tho... my hubby is not in the least!!!

That does make me sad for you.

Robert Louis Stevenson once said that he didn't "altogether like writing, but having written is a great thing." I've heard quite a few girls say something rather similar: that they don't really like being spanked, but they love having been spanked.

Totally agree with OTKinCT - a long, gradual warm-up is a key element in helping a spankee enjoy the experience.