A spanko who doesn't like pain?

Am I any less of a spanko because I don't like pain?

Like the majority of people here, I have always been fascinated by spanking. My earliest memories are of TV spankings, the first word I (still) look up in a new dictionary or thesaurus is 'spank'. It has always excited and aroused me beyond measure. But I really don't like pain. Not even when applied to my bottom.

Don't get me wrong, I love actually having my bottom spanked. But I am quite happy with a hand spanking, thank you. I have no desire to be caned or thrashed. For me the pleasure comes from the ritual of being threatened, then taken otk, then bared. The smacks themselves really don't need to mark and bruise me to bring me satisfaction. Pleasure comes from the feeling of vulnerability and humiliation. Excitement rising from just knowing that he is bigger and stronger than me and I am at his mercy.

I have had hard spankings in the past that have left bruises...and like most, I gloried in my 'badges of honour' until they faded over the passing days. But now when I watch a caning clip I find myself wincing and just thinking, that's not for me.

So am I any less of a spanko than those who worship pain....or just a wimp?

Personally, Mini, I agree with you 100%. I am not big on pain. I love to watch and read about otk hand spankings, but when it comes to whippings, canings, etc., I wince. I love the hand spankings and the feeling and whatever else than entails afterward, but I don't like implements. I have often wondered the same as you, am I less a spanko than others who like pain? I don't know either.

You're not a wimp, mini. I also fall into this category on the spanko spectrum. I think my tolerance is decent enough if I ever want more pain inflicted; but to me, spanking is an erotic act, not a disciplinary one. Yes, there are others who view our kink differently - those looking for more intensity, or who 'need' the pain, or something else altogether - and I say, "to each his/her own." But for me personally, sex and spanking are wonderfully intertwined - I can get aroused without having to receive a 'hard' spanking or having implements bruise and mark me. The whole experience itself is what turns me on. I have no desire (or need) to be punished.

Some people seem to really enjoy pain to one level or another and want/need it as part of their overall "spanking experience". I've never been a real pain fancier myself.

To each his (her?) own. There's room here for all viewpoints (or at least nearly all). It's what YOU want that should be important.

There are those who just love the after affects. The feeling of 'burning, soreness, and remembering what happened to them afterwards.' Then there are those who want to see a good red bottom when looking in the mirror. Some who like to see the stripes that a can leaves. It's a deeper spanko thing for them. This is usually true for women. I truly believe a woman can take a lot more punishment in that regard than a man.

For me, I would never have someone tie me up, use a cane on me, or just pound my butt to a pulp. Like Mimi, I just enjoy giving a spanking with my hand, and getting one the same way. I'm no stranger to being over a feminine knee. I'm not a stranger to having a lady over my knee. I can't remember ever giving a spanking as a punishment. It was always out of pleasure for the lady and myself. However, I never actually hurt her. I was never actually hurt either, but I felt the sting.

You're fine the way you are, Mini. You don't need to be abused to get satisfaction out of a good spanking. You bring up a great topic here by the way.

I don't think anyone really likes pain as such. It is what the pain represents and what the pain accomplishes. No, I don't enjoy it, but sometimes I want, or need, it... even crave it. If that makes any sense.

Personally, I absolutely hate the pain of a spanking, even a few hand spanks. Regardless, I still 'enjoy', or at least get a lot from, a good thrashing.

If I'm getting the more severe implements, it would be for punishment, and, to work for me, a punishment has to be unpleasant.

The tension between wanting (or needing) a spanking, and not wanting (or even hating) the pain to the most fascinating thing about spanko bottomhood. Especially real-life spanko bottomhood. It fascinates me how someone can hold both emotions in their head simultaneously. ("I don't want to be spanked, and yet I do want to be spanked!") I always appreciate stories which convey this sensation, cause it is really hard to do.

I don't enjoy the pain of a spanking. But as some others have said, sometimes I need it. And when I'm in a certain mental state, the thrashing (specifically with a strap) and the pain need to be intense to give me what I need. I am almost at the point of giving up trying to understand the "why" behind it all.

I agree with mini and the others. I am not convinced that it is the pain that makes a spanking effective but the emotional release that can come with it, even if it is a self spanking. Maybe that is where spankophilia differs from sadomasochism. Admittedly the line is blurry.