rebeljay:
I have tried the bit about saying what I didn't like. I just had formulated a respose to one, but when it comes to it, I am so much a product of my parents' thought "if you cannot say anything nice, say nothing" that I just don't feel ok with that type of comment. I get that it is totally my own problem, but I just think that authors should express themselves freely and when paired with appreciative comments, one from me as to how I disliked an element feels a bit churlish really. I may get over myself in time
Speaking as an author, I wish people wouldn't be like this. When I post something on a website that allows comments, it means that I want feedback. If there's a problem with my story, then I would really appreciate it if people informed me of that fact, so that I can improve my skills and avoid making that mistake again in future stories.
Granted, there IS a difference between constructive and destructive criticism. When pointing out a flaw, you should propose a solution or an alternate approach, rather than just saying why you dislike it. You should also be careful to phrase such criticisms politely, and to compliment the author on the things that s/he DID do well.
Constructive criticism would read something like: "I like this story (especially the funny dialogue, and the descriptions of the actual spanking), but it doesn't seem likely that his mom would have reacted this way; a bit more insight into her character might make this easier on the reader, as her motivations currently defy understanding. I also suggest using more synonyms and alternates turns of phrase; the wording got redundant by the end."
Destructive criticism is more like "this story sux becuz the characters talk weird and the scene is ritten badly & i think u should lern 2 rite bettar or stop posting lololol"
I would also note that you should avoid criticizing the subject matter or genre of the story. If you really dislike domestic stories, or nonconsensual scenarios, or F/M, then avoid commenting on stories of that type. If you're not the target audience, you don't have anything to say.