First Party - any advice?

Was this a private party or one of those weekend retreat events?

Did you pay to go to the party Transmanspankee ? Was it advertised online ? Be good to know. Sounds like you had fun.

transmanspankee
I agree, sounds great, and I am very pleased for you, not too say a bit envious. That your nervousness beforehand was unwarranted is gratifying.

My first party was absolutely great, though I was nervous as hell and inhibited at being a fairly shy single man on my own. So I simply set out to talk to people - there were a couple who'd travelled to the event whom I'd talked to at the pre-meet in the pub, he was vanilla and was there for his wife's fun so we discussed football and all manner of non-spanking things and I believe the fact that I'd taken time out for him earned me the right to publicly spank his wife later in the evening. The female dommes were quite in demand, taking people for a flogging one at a time and all I had to do was put my name on a list and I got seen to eventually. So I would say don't expect everyone to seek you out to play, you have to conquer fear and introversion to be as chatty and sociable as you can and see what develops, but at the same time not look like you're just targeting the good-looking women or pestering people. It's not an easy balance but after all everyone is there for the same purpose.

Hello! I got home last night but was exhausted so I thought I'd do a longer update for you all. Thank you so much for all the tips and advice, I really really appreciate it.

The party was a private domestic party, invite-only, not advertised anywhere. I haven't asked permission to say who organised it so I won't reveal that information, but it's someone relatively well known on the scene that I've become friends with over the years. I had to pay a hundred quid, but that was just the cost of the AirBnB divided by how many people were staying - for a two-night stay in London, that's pretty cheap.

The party was wonderful. The gender split was fairly equal, as was the position split, though there were more female bottoms than male ones. Most people there had already attended at least one party organised by this person, so they mostly knew one another already, but they didn't exclude me in any way, shape or form. Everyone was extremely kind and friendly. The first spanking happened in the kitchen and suddenly there were spankings happening all over. It was lovely! I'd thought I probably wouldn't play this weekend, but the hosts (who I've been friends with for a few years) asked me if I wanted to do a private scene, which I said yes to. It was wonderful and melted away my anxiety about being there and doing public scenes, too.


The Saturday was wonderful too. All us newbies were totally relaxed and comfortable. I got a quick bare bottom handspanking in front of a few people at breakfast for the TERRIBLE CRIME of saying British bacon is nicer than American bacon. Everyone agreed I deserved it! For most of the day I hung out and watched scenes rather than participating, and chatted with people. In the evening I got a chance to make one of my fantasies a reality, which was beautiful. I got two handspankings and then two canings in front of pretty much everyone. It was my first real taste of the cane and it was intense but incredible. I was shaking like a leaf. Everyone cheered me and came in for a hug afterwards, which was so sweet and lovely!

The Sunday morning was mostly about cleaning and tidying the AirBnB, though there were a couple of private scenes to listen to, and one guy got a belting in the kitchen in front of everyone which was yummy. That was that, end of party!

My worries were utterly unfounded and I had a tremendous time. Everyone was exceptionally kind and friendly and play seemed to happen pretty naturally. If you get the opportunity to go to a party, PLEASE go. I can't promise it'll be perfect but I can promise that if you're kind, polite and clean you will probably have a good time.

In Sweden? I have no idea, but if you want to know where in the UK, pm me and I'll send you some e-mail addresses.

transmanspankee;
I'm glad you enjoyed it. It sounded wonderful.
I hope you'll enjoy many more!

Sounds lovely, just what a party should be with no drama and everyone being kind and respectful.

transmanspankee, i personally have never attended such parties, however it is truly pleasing to hear that you enjoyed the experience and found everyone friendly, and none of them 'bit', well unless you asked them nicely..

I remember my first party. That was back when panty spankings could take place in the dining area of our private reception room. I , also remember a young lady I later spanked in teddy bear panties of yellow, blue and pink. I had to wait until her butt cooled down before I could spank her over her panties.