You're a grown-up, you don't have to take a spanking if you don't want to

RosieRad


Ok, thank you for the explanation. I only remembered Type 1 and Type 2 as being types of errors in statistical analysis from my college days.

It's no fun if you cheat. Bending the rules...? BTW, on an unrelated topic, I sent you a few messages this morning. I don't know if something is wrong with the messaging system, since I was getting responses from you to messages I'd sent weeks ago, so I just thought I'd mention here that I'd responded. Sorry for usurping the forum for personal use.

Yeah, I think there has been something wrong with it for a while; I think some of mine aren't getting through and I got a couple messages from people saying theirs didn't get sent to me so they had to send it again. I answered your messages from this morning.

Good to know it's not just me or we'd chalk it up to my incompetence. Messaging systems can be troublesome, as much for Februs-type techies as users who wonder if the message they put in an online bottle is still bobbing in the waves. I responded back so we'll see if there's a bottleneck or glitch.

The way I see it, there's two issues here: the first, why adults get spanked, and the second, what are the scenarios in fiction an adult can get spanked for. For me, these two items overlap somewhat as the stories I write are meant to 1) entertain, 2) explain why people crave Domestic Discipline 3) what happens when they achieve it or do not obtain it and 4) make the reader think about the various issues. The last, I might add, is what all writers, to varying degrees, desire.

For me, it is very simple. People crave Discipline because it 1) improves the quality of their life (be it internally or externally if not both), 2) helps stave off depression and repair, not harm, one's self-esteem (yes, that's contrary to "public opinion" but think about it. If someone cares enough about you to spank you when Needed, then the recipient is worth the time & energy the Disciplinarian is putting forth. If they didn't care, one's bottom wouldn't be sore, true, but their life would also be poorer as the "recipient's" inner life grows darker by the day), 3) the Show Supernatural put it best in one episode where they dealt with the fact that everyone wants to be judged and dealt with accordingly. Frankly, in my humble opinion, those-even the ones who struggle-who care tend to be stricter on themselves than another would be and tend to impose harsher self penalties. Therefore, spanking/domestic discipline is much better suited to deal with those situations as opposed to the truly horrific abuses that occurred in by gone eras and what, sadly, still does occur in parts of the world. 4) Historically, there was always some sort of ceremony/ordeal one had to achieve before one was considered an adult. Now, it's merely crossing a stage (graduation) or achieving a physical age. Being an adult is so much more than either of those. That's why, the lack of some sort or ordeal etc, we're seeing more and more man-children & woman-children in society and gaining the ability to make significant changes in the world (and NO, I'm not going to delve into forbidden political territory here). Such individuals life, sooner or latter, turns into adults because reality sooner or latter makes it's mark. The smarter & luckier ones, weather they know it or not, are the ones who find Disciplinarians who ca guide them before life scares them too badly. 5) the final one is of course sex. Because the posterior region has so many nerve endings and is so close to the "entertainment" areas people just like to play. Yes, sex can tinge the other points I've made but then sex tends to hover over all aspects of life to some degree or another.

Finally, I'd just like to point out that there are some adults who find security & freedom by being strictly supervised and subjected to Discipline. They can accomplish great things but if they're given too much freedom then their life slowly unravels. This is not something that can be imposed on groups, nor should it, but for individuals who Need it then there should be some way society provides for them. Sadly, in my experience, except through fictional, society doesn't. Unless, of course, one has money. Spanking/domestic discipline is one of those things that is so important & essential that it shouldn't be restricted by such a petty & artificial concept but sadly humanity has become trapped by it. Anyway, I'm getting OT.

So to conclude, let me just say, adults-weather it be in fiction or real life-will concede control if it's in their own self best interest to do so. The trick, as always, is to not let fear override one's Needs. Thankfully, in fiction, that & gaining a Disciplinarian is much easier to accomplish.

I'm one of the authors who invent weird and odd worlds where non-consensual spankings can happen. Other times I'll use odd situations, or invent "institutes" where it happens. One of the elements I struggle with is plausibility. Not realism (because I'm dealing with unreal situations) but to keep things plausible. If A happens then it follows that B happens then logically C happens.

It's not easy to keep the story line plausible. We all know that English schools got rid of caning years ago, so even a "young looking adult gets mistake for a student" story has to be set in the past. Or include a headmaster who was setting her up, knowing that she was an adult and caning her the way he'd never cane a student. Or the story has to be about how a weird political thing means that the cane returns to university or the upper 6.

I finds it helps if the spankee is interested in being spanked, even if she isn't actually consenting to being spanked in the here and now. Some call that sort of story a "moth to a flame" one. Flirting with the concept, teasing around it, then caught up in circumstances and forced to go through with it.

But finding that right balance of plausibility and realism? That's hard.