Is spanking a secret in your relationship ?

Cayenne, does your wife know everything about your spanking life ? The stories and blogs you write and the meet-ups you have with guys ? You spend a lot of time doing these things and your stories are very good.

Not a secret in my marriage. One of us might comment while watching TV that a wife/girlfriend is acting bratty and remark "you know what she deserves." Nowadays it seems there are more references in mainstream shows that 10-20 years ago. I also like using words like "old fashioned" "naughty," spoiled brat," "discipline," etc so even if not using the word spanking, the message gets across.

In my case I am a very lucky man, during my childhood and through my teens, I was always the spanker with willing young girls and teenage girls who willingly went over my knee in spanking games for fun and quite a few were keen to have it on the bare and even more fun there were a few who instigated the spanking and wanted a spanking to tears. Moving on to when I married, I introduced my lovely wife to the joys of spanking after a lot of deliberation between us, and she found out that being over my knee for a nice long barebottomed spanking made our lovemaking a lot more enjoyable. Then came the time later on when I decided that I would like to be spanked now and then, I got a big no no from my wife saying she didn't feel it right for her to spank me, and it took me a couple of years to convince her to try it.
But I found out that I wanted more, I wanted to get a PROPER spanking with her hand first and then her wooden hairbrush, she blew up at that and said no way, so once more it took a couple of years to agree to give it a try but eventually I succeeded and it was about the 5th time with the hairbrush when I asked her to spank me to tears that she found out that she was enjoying it too and we have never looked back, our love life is superb now and she now relishes her power when she spanks me to tears and even initiates it quite a lot turning her husband into a well spanked naughty boy with tears flowing down his cheeks,

Elorac, Congratulations!

It was no secret, I told my then lady friend before we began dating. We only had a chance to play a few times back then.
Years later when we began dating again she and I discussed it and I shared sites and stories with her.
Well it wasn't long before she not only warmed to the idea but really began to enjoy warming my bottom. This was about 95% foreplay, yet I saw hints of what might be possible.

I could not imagine being in a relationship without I partner being fully aware of what I'm into. There's another side to that coin, while rather Young I married a girl with an ass to die for and you couldn't spank it hard enough. Unfortunately that was about all we had in common. It worked for 15 years.

I have been married for a very, very, very long time to a man who is aware of, but does not share my passion for spanking. It's one of the few regrets of my long life. If I had the opportunity to do it all over again, I would not marry a man who didn't share this love of spanking.

olderlovely

I have had fantasies about spanking attractive females on their bare bottoms since I was a little boy. Now I am married to a woman who is lovely and kind but who will have nothing to do with my spanking fetish.

Fortunately, for me the fantasies about spanking when I touch myself are enough to make me satisfied and happy. Too bad we never met each other, "olderlovely"!

After my wife died I spent a number of years in and out of non spanking relationships. My wife and I had enjoyed a very happy 15 years that most certainly did involve me spanking her when she deserved it....and sometimes when perhaps she did not! It was a part of our life together and we enjoyed that and each other tremendously.
After she died I spent 13 years in the spanking wilderness, had some nice girl friends, but no-one was interested in a spanking.
I decided that it was time to do something about it and I joined a number of websites, and spotted the profile of a lady of similar age who was looking for someone who knew how to spank a cheeky girl and to have a real relationship with. That was coming on 3 years ago, and we are going strong.
My lady friend had been looking for the right guy for many years, and had given up hope of finding the right spanker for her, but then I came along. I realise now how lucky I was to find her so quickly, and I think there are many people out there who simply do not find the right person for them.
Of course I also made friends on this website, one in particular who I keep in touch with and who has also found the love of her life and is living a very happy spank filled life.
So what am i saying....I suppose it is to keep looking, and you never know that naughty or strong person may just be around the next corner.
I do not tell anyone else about my spanking desires or needs, its no one else's business and it is a tad on the (perceived) unusual shall we say! Anyway thats my story.

Yes, unfortunately I have to say HAD. The secret relationship was centered around spankings. Its was secret for both of us. It was private and extremely enjoyable. We did a variety of role playing with her always ending up quickly over my knee. However, as time passed she decided to end it.
She is still a friend but no longer has desires to rekindle the spanking past. So we keep in touch and periodically meet for lunch. Its always nice to see her. She has an awesome smile that lights a room when she enters. She's a remarkable lady and the memories will be forever.