Do you regret having a spanking fetish ever ?

I only regret the years I tried to smother my real desires about getting spanked for so long, now I try to catch up by being as naughty as I can be. However futile that is

I am sure most if not all of those lucky girls are just bursting with gratitude Phil!

PS This thread is turning out like the spanking oscars!

Well if I didn't have this desire to be spanked, I think life would have been a lot less complicated. My wife will not indulge me, maybe if I had pestered her much much earlier it may have been different, who knows, I certainly don't

How did I miss this one? No, I don't regret having the fetish, but I do regret not doing something about it long ago. I go either way in the kink. I've had so many chances with girls and women before I got married, but I can't put my finger on why I didn't do anything about it. I believe by some of the comments by readers and authors, and the stories by authors, it shows just how much we/they enjoy having the fetish.

I've been thinking about your comment a lot, rachel. It resonated with me, in that I think some of my aggression and assertion has been channelled into the fetish rather than into my daily life, making me less assertive than I could have been

There are times that I regret being such an ardent spanked, such as I am. This seemingly lifelong fascination with women and wanting to spank their derrieres over my knee to my heart's content is a bit overwhelming at times. Add to that the fact that I'vie been happily married to a sexy, full figured bubble bottomed Latina who isn't exactly into spanking the way that i am. She's indulged me here and there, but has admitted to it being a bit odd to her as to why i love it so much. I am always swatting, squeezing, patting, kneading and kissing her bum all of the time. It's hard for me to talk to her about getting more into it because she finds it so odd. I even went as far as chatting on line with other like minded individuals about spanking because it's hard to relay how I feel with people who cant relate. It is so frustrating at times that i want to scream. There are even times that i wish that she'd just take my pants down, turn me over her knee and teach me a good, long hard lesson on my bare bottom. This is coming from a guy who has ALWAYS been a top. Oy

Sorry but I haven't read all the posts so I'm probably repeating what several people have already said, my only regret regards having a spanking fetish is that I didn't start getting spanked seriously earlier! I realised in my late teens that the mere mention of spanking did something to me, I got excited just hearing the 'S' word. I have no idea how it started, I wasn't spanked as a child, just the odd slap and at school I got caned once but this was just a few strokes on the hands. So where my love of being soundly spanked over the knee of a strict lady came from I've no idea and as for my true love 'Caning' the thought of it is scary, the actual caning is very, very painful but I love to hate bending over to be caned. I am spanked and caned regularly and cannot imagine life without it, if my bottom is hot and sore, I'm an happy boy! I used to think I was strange and the only person who enjoyed it but I certainly know differently now because I've met some really nice people in the spanking scene. I imagine people not into spanking probably think we are a weird bunch but we know differently, we are just normal, decent people, who know what we enjoy and thankfully in my case, we go out and get it. So certainly no regrets!

No, I do not regret this fetish that has always captured my imagination and fascinated me. It was always there. I did not care much for my father's belt when I was younger and misbehaved, but that did not happen very often. I did not view his punishments as interesting. But by the time I was twelve, I knew I was interested in spanking as part of the sexual process. My husband, although reluctant at first, eventually came around and gleefully accommodates my desires; it has never really been an issue with us. There is truly nothing to regret; it is part of me and I plan to continue to enjoy it.
Islandcarol

I must admit that I have found this much more problematic than most others that have replied. As several have already pointed out, I haven't chosen to have a spanking fetish and cannot regret it the same way I can regret stupid acts and decisions. Still I have often found it a burden, especially before the Internet made it easy to meet others with the same inclination.

When I grew up in the sixties and seventies, it was very hard to find reliably information. I had read enough psychology books to know that I was not the only one with sadomasochistic tendencies, but I had no idea how many we were, and the picture the psychology texts drew of me and my peers was not very comforting. Like everybody else, I had met my share of sadistic schoolboys and had no wish to be associated with them.

I had a fair mix of sadistic and masochistic fantasies about spanking, and neither category seemed particularly wholesome: What does it really have to say about you that you dream of being physically punished in the most embarrassing way conceivable, and - even worse - what does it imply that you dream of treating others the same way? Beating girls wasn't according to the rules of chivalry where I grew up, and still I couldn't get the thought out my mind. Thank God I also had my masochistic streak to even things out a little bit!

I thought the chance of finding a girl with similar interests almost nonexistent. This was the heyday of radical feminism, and although I had no problems with equal rights and equal opportunities for women, the feminists' view of female sexuality left me little hope - there seemed to be an underlying premise in their arguments that any "deviation" in female sexuality was due to male pressure. They may not have said so explicitly, but the message was that if a girl was interested in getting spanked, it was because a male chauvinist society had distorted her natural sexuality. I must admit I found the feminist view of female sexuality hard to believe, but it is wasn't easy for an inexperienced schoolboy to argue about female sexuality with women twenty years his senior!

Of course, the Internet has changed the situation completely, but even today it cannot be unproblematic to be a young spanko. Love and fetish don't always pull in the same direction!

No one said it was easy being a spanking obsessive Alef. Doubtless all my partners thought I had weird taste, always going on about bottoms and spanking the whole time. Nearly all my experiences as an adult were largely due to one mildly sadistic girlfriend who I met when I was nineteen. I was never attracted to the leather scene so my fetishes and obsessions have largely remained inside my head. Not that I regret that as there is something ridiculous in a man of my age pretending to be a naughty schoolboy. Besides do they actually make grey short trousers in that extra extra large size!!!?

PS I wont hear a word against feminists as long as they have a sense of humour!