Spanking in the New York Times

May I just offer a short plug for the parody Somewhere over the Rainbow by js_anon which is on these shelves. It deals with this topic in a wistful way.

Kudos... to the NYT for publishing this... and to a courageous writer for eloquently (and publicly) voicing the familiar feelings and self-questioning that resonates with so many of us.

It might be nice for a very new author, on this subject matter, such as the one from the NY Times, write a R/L experience. Even though that the LSF is suppose to be fiction, it would be quite interesting to see a new author, who was never or rarely subjected to these stories, to write a true story on the subject. Remember, R/L can be even stranger than fiction. No detail would be left out.

Leave it to the NYT to publish this article; but it was facinating reading. I was able to relate on many fronts (ok maybe backsides too). I admire her courage. The fact the she feels spanking is the entrée and sex is the side dish is my thoughts as well. Interesting that she states "the vast majority, though, both characters are men, have a platonic relationship, and no sex or romanticism is involved." Was that her preferences in stories that she focused on or was that research findings?

i also have to wonder if after reading her article that the boyfriend does ask her what type of spanking (otk ?; with implements or without ?; severe or mild?;erotic or displinary?; etc) that she is looking for. Actually she did not really say that in the article. She is indeed courageous. I really wish sometimes that we could be open about out spanko preference with everyone and they would accept us as we are.
JIM

She is courageous indeed. I went out of the spanko closet years ago but only to my immediate family and a few friends. At the same time I started to post my stories. I was also old enough to don't care any more what other people thought about. She is young and did it in a most public way. Her experience is very similar to others who share our kink. Thanks jefesse for posting such interesting link.

She mentioned the film Secretary, which I was just thinking about the other day, because I have self harm scars from years ago and I was wondering if there was a connection between that and my spanking preference.
I liked that film, but I guess it made her feel like a freak when she's really just a "nice girl who also happens to like being spanked". Although having said that the main character from that film was pretty mental, and I am pretty normal by comparison. Still I wonder if, as Jillain said, my spanking obsession is merely a preferable alternative to self-mutilation, or if I just happen to like being spanked.
I've never had much difficulty telling people, I'd just ask them once we were in bed "have you ever spanked anybody?" And whatever the answer was I would say, "would you like to spank me?" I didn't exactly put anyone off with this method, but I found most people find it difficult to do something like that. They would be afraid to hurt me.

Actually, it's definitely not an alternative to self harming for me. There may be a connection there somewhere but it's not that simple. I was extremely unhappy when I used to cut myself, and I am very happy now, and spanking make me more content and satisfied

She wrote that this described her *personal* collection of spanking stories. However she implied not that this was truly her preference but that such stories felt "safer" precisely *because* they were not her true preference. And this is for stories stored behind multiple levels of password protection. How sad, and how typical.

This woman is telling my story in so many ways. From the time that I was four years old, I was excited by cartoons and stories that featured spanking. I also went to the dictionary for clandestine thrills. The Oxford English was the best - the entries are so extensive and complete!