My following comments are in response to
Februs' article in WellRed Weekly, from June 3, 2012. I wasn't here in 2012, so I just tonight found that article after Googling the Latin motto for this site, so that I could find out what it meant (I'm an ancient history buff, so the Latin sucked me in). The first link Google gave me was the link for
Februs' article. I will ask for some indulgence, as I still consider myself to be somewhat "new" here.
As an author, yes, comments/feedback are vitally important to my writing. But, I should comment first myself upon the origins of my writing.
I wrote my first spanking story when I was 14 years old (1980). It was ridiculous. I had no idea what I was talking about, aside from my own personal experience with being spanked as a child. At 14, I had already had a number of opportunities to view pornography, via my younger friend "borrowing" his dad's Hustler mags, or the guy whose lawn I mowed letting me peruse his Playboy collection. There was no WWW then.
My other source of sexual entertainment was the local convenience store. In my sexually formative years, I guess I was fortunate that the "men's magazines" were not kept behind the counter as they are now. They were right there on the newsrack with all of the other magazines. So, there was a convenience store close to where I lived at age 13-14, and there were all the "adult" magazines, and the 20-30-year-old guys behind the register just chuckled and turned a blind eye to my "sneaking" looks into those magazines.
So I perused Playboy and Hustler and Penthouse, goggling at the pretty naked ladies. For some time, I had noticed that there were some smaller magazines off to the side. They had names like "Penthouse Forum" and "Variations".
One day, out of curiosity, I sneakily picked up an issue of "Variations", and I was initially disappointed to discover that it was mostly written stories, not pictures of naked ladies. But that particular issue that I picked up that day contained a spanking story. At that age, I was already an avid reader. I really enjoyed reading. So, what the hell, I read that story.
In hindsight, the story itself was pretty lame, by my current standards. But ... by the time I finished reading it, at age 14 in 1980, I had the hardest boner I'd ever had. Pictures of naked ladies had never turned me on as much as that spanking story had.
So, at age 14, in 1980, with very limited access to "real" porn, I started writing my own. I wrote in longhand, in spiral notebooks, carefully hidden. I would write each night until I had to "relieve myself". I wrote, every night. And, in hindsight, my stories were completely ridiculous. I was a 14-year-old virgin, trying to write sex scenes, and spankings, and even BDSM scenes. Mostly based on continued sneaks into
Variations magazine. I honestly wish I still had those stories to share for laughs.
When I was about 17 years old, my mom found my stories. And she read them.
All of them went into the fire, and my mom became a berserk "prayer warrior", praying over her "perverted" son.
Once things settled down, I started writing again, and got better about hiding it. Still pre-Internet, but now I could at least write my stories and save them to floppy disks (at school - we didn't have a computer at home). I kept writing, and kept writing, with only myself for an audience.
Fast forward to 1996, me at age 30, and finally discovering the Internet.
The first spanking story author I encountered was
Flogmaster. And, holy crap, here was a guy writing exactly what I had been thinking ever since I was a teenager. I think I wrote an e-mail to him back then, but accidentally sent it to the wrong address (and I lived in terror, wondering what the recipient, if there was one, must have thought).
Inspired by Flogmaster, I started writing again, but via the Internet gained more information and education, and wrote better stories.
But I still had no audience aside from myself, writing masturbation material.
So I eventually stumbled upon a site for spanking stories. I shared a couple stories I'd already written. The response to those stories was encouraging, so I wrote more. And more. And more.
And here is where I start to rebut
Februs. (Apologies for the bolding of your name, Februs - it's a habit from my primary forum, into which I'll explain below.)
In 2003, about the same time I discovered that forum to which I could post my stories, I found another message board:
The Straight Dope. This was a forum dedicated to eradicating ignorance. But the main thing to me was that it was a "general interest" forum. No specific topic, just whatever you wanted to talk about.
The key, to me, is that I have been an active participant in that forum for almost twelve years.
And this is where I finally come back to the topic of "commenting " on stories.
But first I will say that I love the way this Library presents the stories in an uninterrupted fashion, clicking on "next" to read the next chapter in a series.
But that's where comments come in.
I love, love, love comments on my stories.
But, between the sites to which I originally posted these stories, and The Straight Dope, I've learned a few things.
The Straight Dope has one overriding rule: What you post will remain here forever, so own what you say". Meaning, what you post cannot be deleted. The second rule is, "provide cites for the 'facts' you present".
The site to which I originally posted my stories differed greatly from this site. That site was a "discussion forum", and stories were posted as "original posts".
So, I would post a story, and people would comment, and that would develop into a conversation.
The key here is that that conversation was visible to <i>everybody</i> who read the story. And anybody else who read the story could, not only read the comments, but they could participate in that conversation.
And that is what I think is lost with the current commenting system here.
I submit a story, and people comment on it, and I respond personally to those comments ... but nobody else sees my responses, because they are private between me and the commenter.
It boils down to, "make a comment, and own it". And be willing to defend it. If you speak it publicly, be willing to defend it publicly. And that doesn't work with the current commenting system.
As an author, I am happy to defend what I wrote.
But, if you're critic, be just as happy to defend your criticism. I won't judge you. I will take your criticism into consideration.
Not just in private messages with me. If you criticized me publicly, be prepared to elaborate publicly, not in "private messages".
And, likewise, if somebody loves my story, and publicly says so, I want to thank them publicly. Not in a private "popup".
(Edited to remove unnecessary profanity).