So, something unexpected happened recently - someone I used to know died.
I hadn't seen him much since high school ended, but I ran into him in a store a few months ago. We recognised each other I pretended that I didn't - I even got his name wrong when he asked if I knew him, but he remembered me and I never forgot him.
You see he was a bully. Oh, some people liked him (and I feel sorry for his family) but he was a bully. Thinking back, I can't recall a single good memory of him. What do I remember? The time I was sitting and reading paperback when he came over, grabbed the book out of my hand, ripped it in two along the spine, tossed it in two different directions, and said "fetch" while laughing.
That's one of countless things that come to mind when I think about him, but I doubt he'd have remembered any of them. If he had then I'm sure he would have remembered them as good clean fun. Funny pranks. Something most people laughed at. That sort of thing.
Those of you who have been reading my stories for a while might have noticed that I've been writing for years. I've been posting on Spanking Memories/SIN/Spanko.net for more than a decade. In short, I'm not some idiot kid and neither was he. But he was still the type to be in a bar at closing time getting into fights with people half his age. In his last fight he went down, hitting his head hard, and never woke up. He died in hospital a couple of days later. No guns, no knives, no blunt instruments, just a bar fight that ended badly for him (and will probably send another idiot to prison).
Why I am posting about this here? My parents vaguely know his parents. People I know are people who might (and in some cases certainly do) know his family. When I mentioned his death to a group of close friends, one mentioned that he was now in trouble with his wife because when she told him that the guy had died he had called it good news. None of that group had any good memories of him, but if I was to say most of this locally his family might hear and I don't want to cause them more pain at this time. He was a SOB and an asshole, but some people loved him. He had friends, family, and they are grieving his passing. Some even saw him as a fun loving former jock who never lost his "can do" attitude that he had back in high school while I (and others) saw him as someone who never did get around to growing up.
So I'm mentioning this here, anonymously, in a way that won't get back to anyone who liked the SOB who never really grew out of being a bully and died as a result of thinking he could drink and fight like he did twenty years ago.
As for me, it's complicated. I'm not happy that he's gone but I'm not sad. A few years after I left high school I made a conscious decision to turn my back on the negative things that happened then. I'm no longer that awkward teen - I've moved on with life. And if he had moved on after high school then he wouldn't have been closing out bars on weeknights, getting into fights, and dying of the resulting head injury. His family can moan the man-boy they loved while I'll skip the funeral (and viewings) and get on with life.
But it's still feels odd, him being dead. |