Glad this seems to be getting resolved in a systematic way. I guess there's no point in commenting at this stage, but I have to say I agree with Rosie Cheeks that it sounds like it's a matter between the two principals and not necessarily a dramatic issue for the group. There's no indication in your description as to how the "victim" of the story feels about it, so it seems entirely possible that it's a simple in-joke between the writer and the other member, who may well have just laughed it off. If you outlaw such gestures, you'll make it impossible for the other member to get his fictive revenge à clef. If the victim feels hurt by it, then certainly the group's disapproval should be communicated to the writer, but if not, it looks like a case of a molehill getting turned into a mountain. Referring the matter to the parent group seems fine, as long as all your group, including the two principals, were involved in the referral — and not just a subgroup of uninvolved parties furtively meeting in the pub. Good luck with it and I hope your group learns something from the experience one way or another. |