What is it that makes spanking so sexy?

I tried to answer this question - from the p.o.v. of a male top - in my piece (plug ahoy!) 'What We Spankers Get out of It'. It took me over 1,100 words and I'm sure I could have said more. Comments, as always, welcome.

Well, of course I can't reply for islandcarol, but I'm guessing that when a person makes a significant life change, such as moving to the Deep South, he/she may have to adjust his/her public image accordingly.

Isn't that avatar supposed to represent Thomas "Stonewall" Jackson...?? --C.K.

I'm figuring that it would work both ways, although I don't live within such a marital arrangement in spite of writing about the concept in fantasy. Would there be a "powerless trip" experienced by the submissive partner, knowing that he/she can be spanked at any time (within privacy constraints), moderately or severely, for any reason, with full consent already given in advance?

Whether I could actually handle such a relationship is uncertain, and it wouldn't work within my marriage anyway, but I certainly enjoy the generic roleplay of being required to accept any spankings which my darling (but essentially 'vanilla') wife wishes to give me--I'll agreeably submit to her wishes at least 95% of the time she decides to administer a sound seat-smacking to me, I find it compelling to simulate having no choice in the matter.

That's undoubtedly why I often write child-spanking stories, because I identify with the boy (or even girl on occasion) who has no real alternative but to accept any bare-bottom blistering which his (or her) mother, aunt, female babysitter, sister, female cousin, etc. decides to administer to him (or her). Of course, I also enjoy the concept involving an adult male (or female) who has to, for one reason or another, submissively cooperate in being corporally chastised, frequently quite severely, by one or more females.

To me, that's also a major aspect to the appeal of accounts involving unfair spanking discipline and/or extremely embarrassing (generally public or semipublic) bare-assed wallopings--it focuses on the recipient's powerlessness, not to mention the spanker's total authority in that area, since the punishment must be submissively undergone despite the fact that it's unjust and/or highly humbling.

Well, that's my personal analysis anyway--the physical aspects of a spanking (sensory, auditory and visual) shouldn't be shortchanged either, they are important, but the psychology involved is a key element of spanking's appeal to me... --C.K.

The taboo. The sense of "wrongness" that comes with one adult treating another so demeaningly. The objectification of the spankee, and the sense that the spanker is worshiping their body in a sense. The strong contrast between pain and pleasure that intensifies the latter. The intimate physical contact.

Also, anything to do with butts turns me on. I am obsessed with butts.

CK, you hit a nice range of key factors. I guess initially I answered from Rosa's perspective without giving mine, probably because, depending on the where's, why's and when's of it all, I may not be feeling very sexy about the whole thing at all. I certainly do in retrospect, mainly because I get a warm adoration flowing towards Rosa and her confidence.

She ......even during a punishment (as long as it is not an emotionally-charged issue ) will get aroused and even manage an orgasm, while I am just feeling contrite. Now, if the spanking is very erotically play-acted and delivered sensually I can slip into "sub-space" and be almost erotically drunk from the experience. But the circumstances and techniques employed make all the difference to me....and only a small difference to her.

For me as a spankee, the sexiest aspects of being spanked revolve around demonstrating my submissiveness when my wife is going to spank me -

Undressing - This involves taking off all my clothes and is more humiliating if my wife remains clothed during the phase of the punishment.

Getting into position and presenting my backside for punishment - Most often I lie down on the bed, but another position my wife likes to use is to have me stand with my legs spread apart and my hands clasped behind my head. To me this seems more submissive because my privates are in full view, and there is so way to hide my arousal or lack there of.

Accepting the pain associated with the punishment - This is easy at the beginning, but there always comes a point where it becomes increasingly hard to hide how much the spanking hurts. My wife usually errs on the side of backing off before pushing me beyond my limits, but there have been times when I've done something especially naughty, and she has taken me further than I really want to go.

Post spanking sex - The sex is great after a spanking ends, but there is still a submissive element associated with it since I give my wife oral pleasure before any of my needs are met.

One thing I absolutely hate is waiting if I know I am going to be spanked. One time my wife told me in the morning that she was going to spank me when I got home from work, and because of what I had done, I knew it was going to be severe. The wait was agony, but due to the built up tension, the first few strokes I received after I arrived at home felt more wonderful than I can describe with words.

I do enjoy a spanking that leaves some residual pain for a day or two or marks that last for a few days. To me, these reminders of a spanking that no one other than my wife knows about are a real turn-on.

Wow Kyle. Now that to me is sexy. I envy you although it's supposedly a sin.

bendover
Who said that?

Supposedly one of the 7 deadly sins, which I do not believe in.

bendover
OH! envy! I thought you were trying to say 'spanking' was a sin. LOL Way too many arch-conservative religious spankers around for me to believe THAT! Envy is different.