Scared Newbie.

Hi, everybody.
I am a 67 year old male that has had fantasies abot FM Spanking since my teenage years. In my fantasies I am "taken to one side" by a firm, stern Lady who tells me that I need to be "held to account!" for my failings... My fear is that it might get a bit too much for meto handle and I get frightened of. I have visited a discipliarian but that cost so much money. How do I find that special someone who can take me 'to task' but steadily. I live in South London.

Look for a spanking party that caters for F/M. Use parties to build your confidence and get to know "nice" doms. When you have identified one ask if she does "one to one".

Perhaps a "nice one" will charge less than a "disciplinarian". If not, go back to parties, which are likely to cost much less than a one to one.

Otherwise do everything you can to become part of the "scene". If you are not out there, little is likely to happen!

Geoffrey Stirling

Thanks, Geoffrey.

That's helpful but how do I find where these parties are?? Is it simply by typing in F/M Spanking Parties on Google?

telmac69

It may not be that specific and it is a long time since I have been to one. I suggest searching for spanking parties initially.

Geoffrey

Consider contacting Jillian Keenan, an author and spanking fetishist, at jillian.keenan@gmail.com. She has contacts worldwide in the spanking scene.

I think you need to be clear on what you mean by "special someone". I would not consider a paid professional (even at a bargain price) a "special someone". I interpret that as a significant other with whom to share more than just an occasional beating. But I could be wrong. So please elaborate.

If I am interpreting you correctly, the answer is 'the same as you would meet anyone.' The difference is that you will need to drop hints as you flirt and get to know each other and see if such a relationship is something they share an interest in. Though, you could narrow your odds by looking for local "munches".

You also say that you had these desires as a teenager and that you are now 67. That is quite a long time to wait. And while it's admirable to act before it truly too late, you might find that attempting this for the first time at your age might make it more difficult. Still, it's not impossible, so get out there and start looking. And if you aren't looking for a full relationship, you might be surprised at where you might find willing disciplinarians in your own circle. Good luck.

Try spankeefinder and 2 Kings in the Uk. Just Google.