I have had a fantasy or interest in spanking going back to pre school. I'm 63 now. I never considered my interest in spanking as something negative. I knew it was not considered "normal" by most if not all standards. I have no idea where the interest came from. I do know that several years ago Ed Lee was contacted by the psychology department at UCLA in an attempt to answer this question. Don't know the outcome of that program. I agree with the others here, seek help for serious depression, there are numerous times I would love to put a gun to my head and pull the trigger, not because of spanking related thoughts though. I was spanked growing up as well but I'm pretty sure my fascination with the subject doesn't stem from that. I also know that when I see girls / women on the street, in public places of all kinds and I look at them my thoughts are far different than most "normal" guys . When I go to various sites looking for certain poses depicting what I wish to see, I find them very hard to find because these sites cater to again, what normal males are interested in focusing on and it isn't a nude girl laying face down on a bed or table. Trying to find such images first in men's magazines, now on the internet has given me a lifetime of frustration. I'm extremely picky about the pose, who's in the image, images which would please most with our fetish do nothing for me. I have found some nice images along the way which I have posted about before. So I'm sure many of us are frustrated and yes, depressed.
I was deeply depressed and frustrated when I first discovered spanking on the internet. In fact, and I've told this before as well, Ed Lee was the one who told me to get on the web and start searching for women who want to be disciplined. His exact words were "they're out there". He was right but meeting someone who I thought could maybe become kind of a on going thing never happened. I went through a stretch throughout the early to late 90's of extreme frustration contacting one potential "spanking" partner after another. Finally you get used to failure and it doesn't bother you that much. I did have several positive one time experiences as well so to be fair, it wasn't all bad. Then there was the work with NU-West and later on some videos with Lily Starr. Those were great experiences.
So as bad as it seems to get, there are options out there. Obviously, I haven't pulled the trigger, well, yet anyway. |