TraderJack:
But I still want to and that desire does make me doubt my character and goodness.
At the most utilitarian level, we're responsible for the things we do. Wanting to do something, however immoral, and not doing it, is not a crime. In most religions, neither is it a sin, and in many on the contrary, it's considered praiseworthy to resist the urge to transgress - more praiseworthy than never transgressing because one never had the impulse.
(This is begging the question that this kink is wrong, which I'm not convinced it is.)
Sometimes I make peace with it by ignoring it for stretches. Sometimes writing stories gets things out of my head, and sometimes sharing those stories and getting feedback makes me feel less alone with this.
Feel free to message me if you want to vent. I've more or less accepted that this part of me isn't going away, since it's been with me from as early as I can remember. It sounds as if it torments you more than it ever has me, but I'm ambivalent at best, and frequently ashamed, and wish it would go away, so I can at least empathize.