mobile_carrot:
There's a lot in this article which makes assumptions, or worse, about which people may make assumptions which could lead to damage.
Thank you that is the word ASSUMPTIONS, and i was taught to assume is to make an ASS out of U and ME.
It is of course likely that Vanessa means a flogger implement and a 'whip' from a adult shop, however if folk so chose or indeed were gung ho about it, then literal interpretations are very possible.
Even viewing it from a personal emotion aspect, do you go through possible embarrassment, nervousness, fear of being seen etc and go to a adult shop, or use online adult toy site and await your purchases. Hoping you are home at time of delivery rather than collecting it from a neighbour, who it's left with by courier, hopefully still discretely packaged. Or do you just take the non embarrassment route, and go to your local garden merchants or equestrian shop and buy a bamboo cane or crop etc.
On issue of trust as said earlier i am merely stating my opinion, i can only speak from personal opinion from learning and experience.
It is of course not possible to cover all the areas in such a article, however why could not a link have been added directing to a suitable site where correct advice etc could be gleaned.
blimp:
Well some like to be beaten reasonably hard. I have no idea whether she is one of them. I wouldn't trust a woman with a whip let alone a man personally. I take it the article is aimed at adults who are capable of making intelligent choices for themselves. Perhaps she expects her readership to possess a little common sense of their own. My own experience of being spanked and caned as an adult (many years ago I might add) is you would encourage your partner to make the punishment on the severe side and regret it before the punishment was even half finished. As no one back then had even heard of safe words you either had to look like a complete wimp or grin and "bare" it!!
Yes some of us like to 'beaten,' whether Vanessa is one too i don't know. Yes, i would hope that the readers of HP are adults with common sense and intelligence. But likewise if a journalist posts a article, then i would hope too that the article used intelligence and commonsense in its reporting, i go to a spanko site for 'fiction and fun' i look at an article on a news site as being more factual, informative etc.
As said previously i am only stating my opinion, i am not suggesting that anyone trialing derriere warming after reading the article is going to be harmed intentionally or otherwise, but Vanessa especially given her interest in womens issues and being an abuse survivor, could have sign posted readers who wanted the flogging, stings, whips etc to, a suitable site.