Redskinluver, I've been in the same position.
One of the "trademarks" of my stories is that the spankings are completely over-the-top ridiculous in their length and severity (well, maybe not so ridiculous if the recipient is a consenting adult - I've seen more than enough similar spankings in videos; but the recipients in my stories are mostly young teenaged girls). That right there should be a sign to the reader that, "HEY, THIS IS FICTION AND NOT REAL AND NO I WOULDN'T DO THIS IN REAL LIFE!" Yet, I've had to deal with people responding to my stories with, "OMG, I hope you don't have kids, you freak!"
The spankers/Tops/Dom(me)s in many of my stories also happen to be downright evil bastards. At least from the perspective of the spankees ... and that is what a lot of readers don't get. I may be a Top/Dom, or whatever, but if you view my full body of work, you'd discover that most of my stories empathize with the bottom/sub (or victim, in the case of the grossly NC stories).
The thing that a lot of people don't understand about us "creative types" is that we're not always talking about ourselves, or even what we believe (hell, one of the best portrayals of a Christian character I ever read was in a story written by an atheist). We're just telling a story, and sometimes telling a story means expressing things that we ourselves don't believe.
I started writing spanking/BDSM/sex stories when I was a 14-year-old virgin, and at that time, my only real-life experience with spanking was the childhood spankings I received. Despite the fact that I was never spanked bare-bottom, and never received more than 3-5 swats, my then-childlike experience resulted in me writing spankers who were "really mean". Because that's how I felt about it as a child. From there, my portrayals just evolved naturally along with my writing style and, eventually, with my own real-life, adult experiences.
Naturally, being now an adult myself (into middle-age at this point), I feel like I can write more realistic adult characters who spank their kids. And I still write many "really mean" adult spankers, because I have by this point in my life met enough people to know that those people are out there. One of my most long-running serials (which I cannot publish here, for various reasons), stars two teenaged girls who are best friends. They are both subject to frequent and unrealistically severe spankings at home, mostly from their fathers. Each of them has witnessed the other being spanked at home, and the level of severity for each of them is roughly equal. Yet one of the girls accepts her spankings (because she knows she has actually earned them, and despite the severity, her father administers them in a reasoned way), and she feels sorry for her friend because, "her dad is just so MEAN about it!"
In real life, I'm one of the nicest, most polite, most considerate guys you'd ever want to meet. I just want to spank a naughty girl's bottom. I can't imagine myself even roleplaying a "mean bastard" (though I could probably pull off "dispassionate disciplinarian"). Yet I happily dream up and write mean bastards. I just make a point of not making them seem sympathetic. |