Breaking point?

Hello all,

I just read another amazing story by Grace Brackenridge, "Spanking Effectiveness," which dealt at some length with the concept of the "breaking point." As I understand it (and my experience of spanking on the receiving end is mostly fantasy at this point), the breaking point is the point at which the spankee has been sufficiently punished so as to surrender (or have his/her will "broken").

So my question for you spankees out there: Is the breaking point a real thing? Does it offer the benefits (to top & bottom) that it allegedly supplies (i.e., release, contentment, healing, intimacy)?

Thanks in advance for your thoughts!

The good Lord help me if I spank her hard enough and long enough to break her will. A hard punishment spanking for my lover has zero benefits. There is no contentment, healing or release of anything. It leaves her angry at me or the circumstances that caused the event; she plots revenge. A spanking does not change her behavior or her attitude. It only makes me certain she has felt my displeasure that she did not take better care of her health/safety. I feel a great need to comfort her even though it was my hand that caused the pain. Fortunately, most of the time I am able to soothe her afterwards in one way or another.

I've heard and read 'real' stories out there where the disciplinarian (female or male) believes the breaking point is when tears begin to flow. Pleas for mercy come rather quickly, the I'm sorry, too. However, real tears of contrition are what most look for. I believe the tears and the color of the bare bottom (nice and red, but not black and blue), are two good signs that the punishment has been duly served.

A little off topic but I just checked on that story and noticed that Grace has 1776 stories in the library. A very patriotic number for an American. I wonder if she will receive any type of reward.

Yes, there is a breaking point where the person being spanked begins to wonder when the spanking will end since the pain is becoming intolerable. As a child, there is crying and wonder when it will all end. A good writer will show these emotions.

It is not the `breaking of one`s will`that is being spoken about, but the ``point` where the spankee accepts the spanking has broken any resistance they had in accepting the spanking for their behaviour. It is far from the the `breaking of one`s will`stage. Usual signs are the complete lack of fighting to get the spanking to stop, the cessation of all physical activity like kicking and waving of arms, and a emotional and physical acceptance of the spankers authority and right to spank and discipline the spankee.

Spankee`s are all different and some take a long time before they reach this stage and some not long at all. The closer the emotional bond between the two people will affect this `breaking point`a lot of the time.

Not to be completely contrary to previous posters, but I do believe this is a real thing. It happens to me with some frequency, and yes it does help with guilt, resentment, healing and intimacy. I don't agree that the breaking point is when tears flow, I think it is different for every person. For me she has to take me quite a bit farther than that as I cry almost every single time (okay fine, call me a big baby.. What-ever!). As for the intimacy... I happen to love my wife very greatly. There is nothing on this planet that means more to me. I worship her and the ground she walks on like my life depends on it. So yeah... I guess you could say there is a fair amount of intimacy involved in our relationship lol.

I have been sitting here trying to come up with a way to describe that moment for some minutes now, and I finally had to consult with my wife's other sub to try to get it right. It's pretty difficult to describe emotions while getting spanked because that just like everything else at that moment, is fairly intense. It's the fact that it is such an emotionally and submissively intense act that makes it such a life changing act in the first place. Okay, well here it is for me... I go through a whole myriad of emotions and thoughts. First a bit of resentment at the fact that I am actually going to get a spanking. Then resolve. "Okay fine, you can spank me, but it isn't going to change anything." Then the spanking starts. "Okay I can handle this. I'm not going to be a baby about this". Then it goes more like, "Okay this hurts! And it's stupid! I don't deserve this much for what I did!" Okay then I start to cry a little. A few tears aren't that bad, but I am not going to yell or make a big deal out of this! And before I know it, I AM making a big deal out of it, and that is about when this emotional transformation happens. I go from "I don't deserve this much" to "Wow, that was a really stupid thing to do, and I wish I hadn't done it". And then finally "I really do deserve this. Wow I am so sorry!" At that point I stop fighting it and just lay there and take it. Sometimes I even actually STOP crying believe it or not. I don't know why that happens, because it still hurts and is embarrassing (especially if her other sub is around), but somehow I am beyond crying about it. I am getting exactly what I deserve, and there is no reason to fuss about it or fight her on it, I am still going to get it, so why fight it? And because my wife knows me very well, and can read me like a book, this is about the time she stops. Right when I admit to myself that I am getting exactly what I deserve and have gone from "this is stupid" to "I am SOOOO sorry!" And I REALLY am too. The fact is.. I am an adult. I know perfectly well what is right and what is wrong. But sometimes I loose sight of that and think I can get away with things. Somehow I almost ignore the fact that doing X will surely get me spanked! And sometimes I make bad decisions about my friends I keep or even make decisions that are detrimental to my safety. Sometimes I don't do everything on my list. Or I don't pass inspection or whatever... I wish I didn't ever do those things. I wish I could just behave and never get spanked period. But that is NEVER going to happen lol.

Anyway, she somehow seems to know the difference between, "I'm sorry" and "I am SOOO sorry and I will never EVER do that again!" It is that point that is the breaking point (for me at least), and I realize she was SOOO right and I was SOOO wrong. This is why DD is so effective. It takes less than 10 minutes to get to that point instead of fighting and arguing all night long.

Sometimes for the smaller things she lets me go a little before the breaking point. But somehow... Somehow she knows that I will get to that point on my own (I swear... Is there some sort of spanker magic that you always know we will get there on our own?). Standing in the corner or just in alone time in the bedroom I get to that point of realizing I messed up so bad, and I am so sorry all on my own. It is just then that I have often left alone time without permission to go straight to her and apologize my heart out for being so stupid. I usually thank her for the spanking, and believe me I mean it! I don't get in trouble for doing that because it is that sincere apology that she is looking for. And besides... I am not being uncooperative. I usually go straight back to the corner or the bedroom without being told anyway. But not before she forgives me, and she makes sure I know it. I know then as I go back to my alone time that she loves the hell out of me. I feel a lot better after that. That breaking point does that to a person.

Anyway, sorry for the long rambling post, but I wanted to be sure you knew it was a real thing for some people.

Regards,
Christian

Just one more note to add... Since I started writing in this topic, canadianspankee has added his thoughts, and I wanted to say that he pretty much summed up my thoughts precisely. I used a LOT of words to say almost the same exact thing! I wish I could do that sometimes, but I tend to ramble. Anyway, thank you for your thoughts CS.

Regards,
Christian

Actually Christian, it was my opinion that yours was the better post as a lot of readers unless they have gone through that "point" may not catch on to what I wrote, but you gave more details etc. The two parts together, make the point even better. Well written and I certainly agree with you in every detail.

I do not know if one can fully understand it unless one goes through it, but it is certainly a "point" that every spankee wants their spanker to take them to in my opinion.

CS

Not having much actual experience at this, I believe CS' rather cogent and to the point post to be representative of what I consider to be the "breaking point". It's what I look for in a story, from the perspective of a reader and of a writer (I try to include something like this in my stories certainly, although my stories, most of which are in the first person, are all completely fictional).