Real Punishment = sexual excitement?

Hello all:

Just read another EXCELLENT story (Instant Fatherhood, Part 4), and, at the risk of committing a spoiler, it raised for me a basic question: Is erotic excitement a common reaction to a genuinely severe punishment spanking? Of one spouse by another? Otherwise?

What do you guys think?

Spankings for punishment rather then for fun or minor misbehaving usually result for me in the "NO SEX" option anyway. Excitement might be attained before hand by the spankee, but certainly not during or immediately afterward if the spanker is any good at their job...LOL. Now talking a few hours later even with the 'no sex for the day' in place the spankee may be excited when by themselves.

Anyway I think the sex excitement bit is different for every person and each individual can only speak for themselves.

CS

If it is, it could spell the end of punishment spankings, paddlings etc in those schools and colleges in parts of America where it's still legal. A recent magazine survey apparently claimed that 50% or more of women who'd read '50 Shades of Grey' said they would enjoy trying a spanking. Imagine trying to justify using a form of punishment that half the punishees actually enjoy!

I can only speak for myself and my experiences. As such I am aroused by spanking in general. I love to read stories about other people and such. In the bedroom we engage in erotic spankings of a sort. But in NO way shape or form are actual punishment spankings erotic for me. I HATE being spanked in this way which is exactly why it is so effective. If it wasn't than I suppose my owner/wife would find other means of punishing me, but since it does work (and quite well) she prefers this method. On the other side of that coin, as it happens my wife also is aroused by spankings, and has made it obvious for a while that she enjoys spanking me either erotically or for punishment, and actually has admitted she prefers the latter. She has never punished me for something I didn't deserve it for, so I can't really begrudge her enjoying me squirming like a worm on a hook as she sentences me to a spanking (and later on squirming for REAL). Why should I care if she enjoys it or not? If it is deserved, than I get spanked. Plain and simple. She can still spank me if she likes, as that is the nature of our relationship, but she does not take advantage normally. Simple answer is, NO it is NOT at all enjoyed by me when it comes to punishment. And yes I suppose she does enjoy some aspects of it when I am going to get spanked. As long as it is fair, I really don't mind that part.

Regards,
Christian

I am erotic spanker through and through. I would never spank my lover if it did not promise to be arousing for both of us. And it always is. Like any other form of sexual foreplay, we find that the most exciting spankings are super-passionate, hot 'n heavy affairs; they push the bounds of her pain-threshold. This intensity cannot be achieved through pranks and role-play; those spankings are great fun but they are not super-intense. The most arousing spankings occur when her behaviour hands me "a good reason" to spank her -- something she already feels badly about and wants to atone for. Some serious issues are just not suitable for spanking; others are. We discuss them first and decide.

Our "good hard spankings for a good reason" are deliberately erotic. I pause frequently to caress her throughout; the pauses permit the pain to abate, and allow us to continue, or resume, a discussion of her conduct, its root causes, and what she is going to do differently next time. Yet she is soaked and primed for orgasm throughout and the spanking typically culminates in lovemaking. The deeper purpose of the spanking is to transfer pain -- she wants to take back the pain she has so carelelssly inflicted, expiate guilt, clear the air, make amends and obtain full forgiveness, including forgiving herself. It's about reconnection and the restoration of good feelings between us. It is not a punishment; the focus is not on deterring future misconduct. I could never separate discipline and desire and neither could she.

I agree with Christian and Canada. As much as i would like to believe a discipline or punishment spanking turns me on, and the thought of it really does, the pain far out weights any kind of sexual arousal. I do know people who do in fact get off specifically on the pain. The amount of spanking/pain they can take is incredible, to be honest i usually feel rather wimpish in the presence of such steely bun individuals.

I suppose it depends on your pain threshhold. I agree that a punishment spanking would probably not be erotic at the time. Later on, maybe much later on, in your memory of the event, is a different story...

I think that this topic could almost be tied to one that I just offered a response.

HOT=HOT

Spanking (regardless of punishment or erotic)...at some point...are we not all looking/expecting for the same end result?

Maybe it's just me...but spanking(s) = turn on...regardless of the choice scenario.

I think flip230 is a wise person who says wise things.

I can't really elaborate on that subject, but I would say for some (especially those who are punished or play with the cane) do like it, and gain a certain amount of sexual gratification out of it. I believe it's those people who can better say. Like bodybuilding - no pain no gain.