Real Life Experience in Relation to Writing Spanking Fiction

But why are you doing so? I personally prefer stories - especially when kids or teens are involved - which are so much over the top that it's obvious that it is an adult fantasy. Writing about spanking children is anyway problematic as it is never right to spank children in reality. So I don't think it's becoming better if you try to be "reasonable" in your stories. Being reasonable would only mean that somebody could think spanking children could be justified under certain circumstances. So why not just enjoy the implausible over the top scenario?

In regard to reality I think Flopsy's statement may be true. I often read comments like "36 with the cane is to hard" or "24 with a prison strap is over the top", but many people take this and much more on a regular basis. I think it's hard to estimate the strength of a stroke just from a fictional description. 36 with a cane in a Malaysian prison are perhaps different from 36 with a cane in a role-play.

... or maybe not, depending on who is "playing."

I'm lucky enough to get to play occsionally in RL and I've found that I can now take quite a bit of punishment which I might have considered brutal or extreme a few years ago, it's all in context and experience. I tend to reflect that in writing - an adult either playing consensually, or who has done something deserving of a good hiding will get toasted far more than a child (although I tend to avoid any serious spanking of pre-teens) and a bratty older teen might be somewhere in between.

I hope I avoid "over the top" unless it's a really silly fantasy and I've only once delved into a Singapore caning, suffice it to say it's not quite what it seems!

Two things - 1) I was never spanked as a child. I have never the less wanted a spanking as far back as I can remember. I have absolutely no idea where it comes from. 2) My vanilla wife did not like anything about spanking. She did spank me a couple of times though - for the love of me - .
ernalones

We all should acknowledge different experiences and levels of tolerance and be sensitive. Although I was spanked when I was young, I do not remember being spanked after age 9 or 10 at home, so these teenage spankings threw me for a loop when I first joined the site. I'm sure pain tolerance levels vary. Although I fantasized about being spanked as a teen, it did not happen until I was well into adulthood, married and an 'empty nester'. For me spanking and sex are inexorably linked. Just because I am not interested in being spanked as punishment, that does not mean I don't enjoy the erotic aspects of spanking.

While I'm reading these wonderful stories, I constantly remind myself of the variety of experiences and purposes we all bring to this site. Perhaps we just need to become a bit more tolerant of the ideas and writing of others. It would surely be a boring site if everyone plotted, wrote and devised characters who behaved just likes all the others.

AMEN!

Katie B

Intolerance will not be tolerated!

Possibly one reason for overly severe spanking in fiction is the author's lack of real-life spanking experience. If one has never had a caning (for example) it can be difficult to judge how many strokes are a reasonable amount for a fictional character to take, and there is always the temptation to exaggerate the severity for dramatic effect. If those of you with RL experience would post your opinion of how many strokes of each implement were 'enough' it would be a useful resource for the rest of us.

Blasphemy!

Regarding severity, I'd point out that most people seek out more extreme experiences in fiction than they would ever want in real life. In real life, an exciting adventure might be going on a week long mountain hike. In fiction, said hike would be boring unless it came with romantic drama or a murder mystery or UFO's or something. In real life, small ironies and follies can make you laugh. In a comedy film, you need absurd characters and over-the-top jokes to make it funny enough. Watching or reading about something is less stimulating than doing it yourself, so fictional situations are intensified to make up for it.

Apply that to spanking, and I think there really isn't much of a question left at all.

I for me, myself and I, can put up with an adult being punished harshly much more then a child or a teen who has no choice in the matter. Sometimes writers of the story say, "oh, but their mom said she loved them," just before the kid get beat for twenty minutes with a hairbrush and then gets caned a dozen times followed by the strap by that same mother. The time to speak about love is not appropriate sometimes, yet some writers seem to feel if they write someone said it, then the beatings can be harsh and cruel. Excuse me, but the 'oh I love you but I have to beat you senseless,' that to me is just beyond belief.

I got lots of spanking as a kid, and still believe it is up to every parent to decide whether to spank or not, however my parents/grandparent never put on the "oh we love you" act before a spanking. I think even as a kid I would have realized the hypocrisy in that statement as the hairbrush hit my bare butt. Most of my spankings lasted less then 3 minutes and with only 1 instrument.

Did they affect my view of spankings today, likely they did, but never to the degree where harshness comes to the extreme. I do know adults who want 'hard' spankings and seek them out. I have had someone smack my butt with a paddle for an hour and I could have taken more but she tired out. Sounds severe, but I am a consenting adult who knows what he wants and seeks it out.

I am a strong believer in thinking that one has a very hard time writing about something they have never had happen. For example I do not think one has to take non-legal drugs into the own body to know they are bad for one, however the best counsellors on these matters are not the university trained doctors who only know what a book or two say, the best to council are those addicts fought and got over the addiction. It is possible to write spanking stories with ever giving or getting spanked, and some darn good stories at that, but the writer would have a much harder time doing so in comparison to a writer who has experience.