This is all quite interesting. If you go on a fetish site you will probably find the women outnumbered by a high factor, maybe five-to-one or more, and being pestered by a horde of desperate men, even more so if they declare themselves to be domme. So as a newbie you might conclude that the chances of finding any kind of partner would be poor.
But then you go on to BL and realise that because it's concerned with spanking and not the wilder extremes of BDSM and doesn't tolerate idiots, the gender balance is much more even. And if you are lucky enough to venture out to munches, especially ones which cater to spanking enthusiasts, you may well find the balance of men and women to be quite even.
The other factor I always bear in mind is that many women like to read about spanking even if they aren't active in any scene, hence the 50SOG phenomenon (There's a whole series going for next to nothing in our local bus shelter but I won't give them house room when there's so much better writing here) |