Spanking, even punitive nasty ones, are sexual for me. As such, involving a minor is improper,for me. I will admit I am not ridiculous about this though. When kids I know play around with spanking ....like a joke or for "Birthday Whacks"....and they are clothed and the spanks are just for fun, and they involve me in some way....I won't go all suspiciously ascetic and not play along. These 'spankings' are not sexual for me and it does not cross my line. It's just silly fun.
I don't believe spanking is a good choice for discipline except as the "last resort" "it can get worse" option. Using it this way meant that my own kids probably didn't get a spanking but a few swats one time each and chose never to push beyond a time out or grounding again...and that was that. I don't think it should be a regular form of discipline for children or minors. |