Willing

Sex and Spanking are much better when both partners are willing and enjoy your kink. If your partner wants or needs a Spanking follow through you might be surprised by the results. RK

You don't say?? Wow.

Now, now, Phil! Sarcasm?

I've spanked girls who were willing, but didn't enjoy--neither the sensation nor the kink. I would agree with raised kilt, it's so much better if they are "into" it.

I have spoken to girls whose partner spanked them, not because he enjoyed it (some guys are really weird) but because they wanted him to spank them. Generally very unsatisfactory.

Geoffrey Stirling.

My husband thought it was a real chore, so I just had to insist!

Not married, but in a long term, very committed relationship, my thoughts are, if it makes her happy, and not harmful to either of us, it's not a chore. It's part of doing for each other, and sometimes we may go out of our comfort zones for the other.

Well, wind him up enough and my comfort zone didn't come into it!

I would venture to say that the sentiments expressed in the OP are true for just about anything.....except perhaps revenge.

All I know is if she desires a spanking, she's getting one. Sometimes her behavior / attitude tells me she needs / wants one without saying so, she gets one then too. I used to feel like I was taking my life in my hands when I did that, now, it's sort of expected.

I'm probably wrong but that sounds a bit like a chore? I think surprise and unexpected makes it more exciting, but not too often, make it special or when it is really needed. And of course, memorable, otherwise it doesn't count.

In a private situation thats not punishment I won't be able to hit hard enough to get feelings running amok.
Sorry but pain (even envisioned) will most likely do the opposite to me than to you and I will most likely not go through with more than a play spanking. Sorry everyones kink to him- or herself.
Yeah, Moody is weird, he can't imagine a real spanking possessing an erotic component.
Why is he even here?
I came along a few spanking stories that weren't a complete let me down.