I have made many wonderful friends through LSF and all have begun by commenting on their stories or by someone commenting on one of mine through the pop-up system. I am one of the many authors here who replies to comments on my stories and if the commenter replies back I do too and from there a friendly banter can begin.
Sorry to hear that you are not enjoying Bl at the moment. My advice is to give it time. Once you start interacting on various forums you will start making new friends and we are a pretty friendly bunch when you get to know us.

And if you want your hind leg nattered off, comment on one of my stories haha (my author name is Nyree Grace). Although I haven't written anything in ages I am now working on a new serial collaboratively with my new friend Malcatraz which started from a Clipboard role-play in BL (English Literature one). It is about a University lecturer and an almost 21 yr old student and so far we have been having a blast writing it. It has seriously helped me get past my writers' block! BooBoo's clipboard (in BL) is a wonderful way to make new friends! Send her a pop up if you need help getting started.. she is known as the helpful one.

Sorry to hear that you have lost your favourite site, Roni, but I hope, in time, that you have fun in both LSF and BL, and I can honestly attest they are both fantastic sites, where like minded people can interact in a positive and friendly way. OOh that reminds me... I must put you in the BL punishment book for complaining hehe!!