RikSpanks:
This might actually be my chance to finally "come out" to my mom. I can't remember if I already mentioned that I started writing spanking/BDSM stories when I was 14 years old. When I was 16, my mom found my stories (they were handwritten in spiral notebooks, since this was pre-Internet), and completely flipped out. She dragged me out of the house and into the family car, and proceeded to tearfully pray over me, going so far as to beg Jesus to cast the demons out of me. Because she couldn't comprehend the idea of a woman wanting to be spanked or whipped.
Heh. Here it is, 2015, and I have a 14-year-old niece who came out as a lesbian when she was 12, and now has come out to me as trans. My niece wants to be a boy. Cool. Now I need to work up the guts to "come out" as well. I just sent my mom the "Johnny Angel" video, asking her if she remembers it. If she does, I'm going to send her the "Johnny Get Angry" video.
And then spell it out.
Seems to me you "came out" at 16, albeit involuntarily. You just haven't "confirmed" it to your Mom yet...
BTW, what happened to your stories? Did your Mom burn them or something? Sounds like she might have.