Alef:
when I asked in another thread some time ago if anybody could come up with a real example of a "wholesome" punishment spanking between, say, a parent and a teenager, the results were rather depressing.
It could be that teenagers are the age group least likely to accept a spanking in a positive spirit. They often have a feeling of alienation from their parents, and are desperate to be treated as grown-ups which spanking flies in the face of. The "wholesome" spanking requires maturity from the spankee, which means they would be less likely to earn a spanking in the first place!
Possibly too, the widespread spanking of teenagers is another myth, or at least an exaggeration of spanking fiction. I'm fairly sure when I was growing up, most parental spankings would have been given to younger children, and the spanking of teenagers was relatively rare.