Real life experience

I was chatting with Janine tonight and she brought up an interesting question. How many authors on this site have actually either been spanked as an adult or given a spanking in an adult situation? I put this to the board because I know that my early writing, particularly when I was in my "I wanna be Mike from London" phase, I had never experienced either side of the paddle at that point apart from childhood incidents, so my writing was particularly brutal because I had no idea what a true spanking was all about. I've since spanked and been spanked, so I have a little better understanding, but I look back at some of the stories I have written and I want to go back and change them to be a little more realistic.

I have done both. when I was a child and as an adult. Depending on how and why one was spanked as a child can give one a perverted view. All my spankings as an adult either given or received were consensual. Cheers

I was spanked once as a child, but was too young to really remember it (as I remember the build-up and the aftermath, but not the spanking itself, it was probably rather traumatic). I was almost fifty before I gave my first adult spanking, and I have since also been on the receiving end, mainly to get a sense of what it feels like. I have no experience with very long and hard spankings, but that's not really my main interest — it's the psychological aspects that really turns me on. Although I am an atheist (an agnostic when I am trying to be polite), I tend to think of spanking in religious terms: sin, guilt, punishment, redemption, a new beginning...

I've got no spanking experience at all - only once did I have a couple of gentle swats at school, and I have a wife who definitely does not want to participate on either end of the stick as it were.

Does that affect my writing? I expect so, Can I gain relevant experience? I expect not.

As everything to do with this subject is fantasy or fiction to me most of my stories concentrate on the inner struggle of the characters, not the spanking itself..

As an adult I've been on both sides. Only ever been spanked by professionals, but I've spanked professionals and I occasionally also spank my wife. I'm a switch by nature anyway. I don't think you necessarily need to do it to be able to write about it convincingly. The imagination is a powerful tool.

I agree Seegee the imagination plus Google and the world is your oyster hehe! I personally have only engaged in fun spankings with vanilla hubby and I was never spanked as a child...so I turn to Google or ask spanko friends if I need information on anything I haven't personally experienced

I am another who has never been on either end of a spanking, and most likely never will be. My only experience is garnered from what others write, and as jools says, imagination and Google. I was advised once that short video clips would be helpful when I needed to write description of gradually reddening posteriors, but it won't help me to know the feel of a sharp smack. lol

For some reason I can never quite understand I am always getting spanked Apparently this experience doesn't help though as I was informed a couple of weeks ago that I write spankings in a 'clinical' way

I have never spanked anyone and my hubby won't let me whack him with anything... well he will but he has this mad 100 to one ratio that puts me off I have to admit, I am not really bothered although there are a few people I could happily...

I've both given and received, though not all that much. I've written about more, more varied, and more intense spankings than in my own experience, which has ony given me somewhat of a baseline for comparison, and that only for the roughly half of my stories that were written subsequently. I think that imagination is by far the biggest inspiration.

My spankings were all given during childhood; up to the age of 12 years old. Since I was very small and light weight for my age, I looked much younger than my age. At 12, I looked more like 8 years old. I was usually spanked frequently, only by hand, on the bare and was very long and probably lasted about five minutes. As an adult, I never gave one (except a small one) and never received one. Since The LSF is fiction, my detailed story could not really be told but it would be better than most of these stories. It would be a classic F/m.