Normal life

Hi all , as previously mentioned a lot of my interest are adults spanked in domestic settings , by parents , surrogate parents etc . I am working on a few longer stories but having a problem describing the ‘normal life’ around the punishments. Basically I would be interested in everyone’s thoughts around how corporal punishment (and other punishments) still being in use would change how normal life is lived. For example the day after a 36 year old has been spanked by his parents if he lives with them , are things back to normal ? Who would no etc
Sorry if I haven’t explained this well I am just wondering about peoples thoughts . I realise that the likely hood of an adult son or daughter still spanked is practically none existent but I want to try and make my stories feel like it could be true and any and all help would be appreciated!!

Yes, things would be exactly back to normal the next day.

If the domestic arrangement includes corporal punishment then there would be no surprise around a spanking and life would simple carry on as normal.

I think you are right that the likelihood now of such a scenario would be practically none existent. But in the past, and not too distant past at that, i.e. 50s/60's , such an arrangement concerning early twenties children would not be exceptional, even if not common. The age of maturity was 21 yrs and corporal punishment was frequently used up to that age. But some strict parents would extend that into the twenties so long as the son or daughter remained living at home. ( Of course the converse happened too, many parents would have stopped using corporal punishment before their children reached 21 yrs, perhaps stopping after school).

One think that might change, as different parents might have different rules, is that older children would probably want to keep their spankings secret from their friends. When they and their friends were younger and were all subject to spanking then it would not have been an issue.

Hmm sounds like a good point there. My story is based around an older adult in his 30s moving back home. Wonder if that would affect the dynamic ?

Do you would see it as they are mainly living normal lives expect when a punishment is required

Any familial relationship involving spanking of an adult "child", of whatever age (upwards of 13 or 14) is likely to have special features, particularly if discipline of that nature is not normal in society. If not normal, then secrecy would be necessary, to avoid embarrassment for the child and disapproval of the adults. Secrecy on the part of the spankee might suggest that they are complicit, otherwise they could, presumably, stop it by threatening to go public, however embarrassing.

You mention "the morning after". No one, and particularly not the spankee, is likely to have forgotten what took place on the evening before--that they were humiliated by having to submit to a parent and allowing them to display and hurt them. As a result breakfast will not be normal and relations will be strained.

I think the "Thank you Daddy, I really deserved that" morning after reaction, is pure fantasy. As is an immediate return to normal relations, unless spankings are so frequent that they are nothing special. In such a case one would have to wonder whether the spankings are effective. After all they should be intended to change behaviour. Weekly spankings would suggest that they are failing in that intent.

In summary, for punishments, I think that mornings after are likely to be extremely awkward and the older the spankee, the more awkward.

Geoffrey Stirling.

Thank you for that Geoffrey . It’s my first attempt to write and I admit I have jumped in the deep end making it a longer story. The punishments feel easier to write it’s the ‘normal life’ parts I can’t seem to be happy with.
I can see what you mean about it being strained. Maybe the parents would be more relaxed then the adult son who would likely be very humiliated.

I would agree with Geoffrey if you intend to set the story in the present. If you were to go back a to the 50's then I think it would be less unusual.

However, I do think that continuity is important. If a teen is spanked by their parent and that then continues pass the age of adulthood, which was 21 in the 1950s, then it might not be remarkable. If a son/daughter left home , lived independently, and then returned to the family home then it might be difficult to accept. In the first place, would they return to the family home in those circumstances. And would the parent not have been treating the 'child' as a adult for at least ten years. It just isn't plausible.

I agree with Geoffrey, the 'thanking you for punishing me' is pure fantasy. Certainly I would have lied and cheated to avoid punishment.

What about if the character was spanked until they left home at 20 something and then returned, a sort of “never too old attitude “

I think spanking a child/adolescent is a pretty safe way to ensure that they never return home. The relationship is just not right.

When friends complain about adult children still living with them or returning to live with them I tend to blame the parents. If they had used CP and hadn't let boyfriends/girlfriends sleep with them when they came to stay, it would never happen. That's why young folks (spanked and denied sex at home) were traditionally so keen to leave home. Of course, if they hadn't spanked and had allowed bed-sharing, they would have a much better relationship with their kids.

Geoffrey Stirling.

Again, I think what time period you set this is important. Strictly speaking, any CP would now be illegal if you set it in the present. So if you want the story to be plausible then I think you need to set it in the past, even the recent past.

I was aware, in late nineteen seventies, of twenty somethings who accepted being spanked while I was also aware of twenty somethings who would absolutely not accept it. I have no doubt that the dynamic between the parent and child has a big influence. And part of that is the continuity. Most parent took the view that , certainly up to leaving school, spanking was 'normal'. After all the 'child was almost certainly receiving CP in school as well.

Thirties does seem to be stretching it though. In my own case, I would have been married with a professional career. I cannot see returning to a parent/child dynamic after that. But continuing from school age and while living at home , yes absolutely plausible because it happened quite often in the fifties to seventies and even into the eighties.

I cannot agree that spanking a child/adolescent would ensure they would never return home. The experience of millions of people would , I think , directly contradict that idea up to recently.

But also, and importantly, you are writing a story, so if it is enjoyable and roughly plausible then you will have succeeded.

I would create life circumstances that would lend credibility to the continued spanking of an adult. An example would be keeping them on task, ie more like a young man. An aunt would work well after a spouse passes away. He needs structure and physical discipline. Rick's Pants Down Paddling by Cherry Red is an example.