Would you change this?

No desire to be "cured". My interest has given me a lifetime of amusement and if being "normal" is ogling page three of the Sun every morning I am glad to be different.

I've been a spanking enthusiast, since the age of 10. My age is now 82 years young, and I have loved every moment when a naughty woman is spanked on her bare bottom. And I do mean LOVE it forever more.

Well, I thought I had this spanking fascination for a long time but sixofthebest clearly has me beat by a large margin. I guess this just goes to show, you have it or you don't but if you do, it's not going away so embrace it.

"If I could erase this aspect of my sexuality I would." Jessica, permit me to say I think this would be foolish. You would be robbing yourself of another of life's rich experiences. Sounds banal, I know. After my time at an English boarding school (I've written about this elsewhere) I was much puzzled and alarmed to realise in my early twenties this strange kink was not going to go away. How to reconcile this with an early education where beatings were an unpleasant fact of life and yet I swear were not in the least the cause of this 'odd interest'? Well, the only answer I can give is 'live with it' and thank heaven for the internet. I've no feelings of shame and I've done nothing of any concern to be outed: to me no big deal anyway. I do know that I am a more complete human being by accepting what I am. Also, by some strange alchemy I believe my respect for women is improved by it.

I'm sorry if it has led you to disappointment in relationships: the converse can also be true, one deeper and more understanding if your luck holds good. Ambivalent feelings? never really thought of it that way. Perhaps this is the source of energy which makes me want to join in the story telling from time to time. Could be yours too: you write very good stories.

I appreciate this very much, all. All the feedback is helpful, as is the respectful discussion of something that troubles me, both with those who share my feelings and those who disagree with them.

Thanks

My fascination with spanking has been with me for so long that I can't really remember when I didn't have it. Since I lead a pretty dull life in most respects, I think things would be quite boring if it weren't for this little vice that I largely keep to myself. Therefore, I can't imagine wanting to lose this part of my personality.

With the people in my real life (other than my wife), I'm still "in the closet" as far as spanking goes, and unless I become a famous spanking author someday, I don't think that is likely to change. What has changed for me is that, since I joined the LSF, I've found it very liberating to have a place where I can share my thoughts with folks who share a similar interest. Without the Internet, I don't think any of us would realize how many people like us are out there.

To Six of the Best. I am also an older gentleman with a love pf spanking pretty girls. I am not as old as you, as you I LOVE women getting spanked.You are ahead of me by 13 years. Hope I can keep the interest. You also Regards.

I would change the world to make it less of a taboo to be a spanko. Even now, the world is barely holding onto its hypocrisy. Decades ago they sold movie with spanking promotions of adult women and now we have the pop cultural phenomenon of 50 Shades. Spanking is an accepted kink but only in the absolute perfect context, but that's still just more comfortable moral hypocrisy. We're almost over it. Honestly, I think we're in an age where if you truly own it, most will adapt to your flow, but that's hard to do after such a long kink-repressed age.

For large portions of my life, I think I would have gone for a change. In the days before the Internet, the only non-sleazy way to find a partner with the same interest, seemed to be pure luck. I had no idea how many women (if any) would be willing to engage in the activities I wanted more than anything else. The only sane alternative was to find a vanilla partner that was perfect in other ways, but that left an empty gap inside. Still, if the choice is between love and fetish, I'll go for love any day.

Now it's different. I have been in a (vanilla) relationship for many years and the sex drive isn't quite what it used to be. The Internet has given me sites like this where I can communicate with others with similar interests. I don't really feel a need to change anymore. Quite the contrary, actually - I think this little "twist in my sobriety" has given me a perspective on things that is quite valuable.

What an interesting debate.

I can identify with the opening statement, inasmuch as there was a time when I wanted very much to 'rid myself' of what I sometimes regarded as being the source of negative feelings that could so easily mutate into depression. If one's circumstances do not allow one to enjoy the activity within the scene that so many fortunate site-members are able to enjoy, any negative feelings can also be compounded by envy.

After struggling with this for years, with very occasional transgressions into 'play' with kind ladies, I decided that it was time to make a decision, one way or the other, then live with it.

I decided that TTWD are, for whatever reason, part and parcel of who I am and that if I make a conscious effort to drag myself away, I am going to achieve the very opposite since those TTWD will still occupy my thoughts.

I therefore decided to live out my longings, which are not restricted entirely to spanking, by creating characters who could enact them for me. This has not proved to be entirely effective in dealing with the pangs and occasional lapses into envy. But it has made the situation a lot easier.

Now, having recently returned to what I have come to regard as the best spanking-related Community on the 'Net, I believe I have struck the best balance available to somebody in my situation.

The upshot of all this is that I have come down on the side of the debate that supports the idea of simply acknowledging who we are and what makes us such people, then, like the yachtsman, using the forces at work to the best of our advantage, even when we are sailing into a headwind. There is usually a work-around for most problems.

I hope that JessicaK will find the peace of mind that will enable her to enjoy all aspects of her personality and life to the fullest degree possible.