Forms of Humiliation In Spanking Stories

sixofthebest er, hits it right on the spot for me. Humiliation is best if unexpected (well, in part of us we know it'll happen, but we suspend disbelief to suppose the story world will behave like the actual world and then enjoy the surprise when it doesn't); and humiliation is sexiest when it involves an authority figure losing authority. That applies not only to the actual spanking, but to the stripping (the stern constable or teacher has purple panties with creamy-white frills!).

Talking of humiliation spankings. How about a father, spanking his daughter, wife, mother, grandmother, and mother-in-law on their knickers down bare bottoms. Than standing each one of these naughty females, in a corner displaying the implement that pained their naked rear ends. Such as a paddle, hairbrush, leather belt, birch rod, and cane. Hopefully one day a spanking author will write such a story.

My stories have a lot of humiliation. It works in stories because it's so dangerous in play. I've seen it at large parties and it can go too far, but the players describe it as cathartic. It is sexual because it's a basic Romantic Comedy element.

I agree with those who suggest that humiliation is an inherent part of spanking. The whole baring of the bottom, much less refinements such as corner time or being punished in front of others, opens up the creation of a humiliation factor. Role reversal intensifies the humiliation, as when a mother submits to being taken over the lap of her daughter whom she had previously punished., For women, exposure of intimate garments is usually highly humiliating, and then when the panties are lowered, it becomes even more so. One of the more intense humiliating scenes I remember reading was an early spanking story where a dominant female teacher denied girls permission to use the rest room so that some would have accidents while being spanked.

Very interesting topic. I agree completely with those who have embraced the importance of humiliation in their comments here. In fact, when sixofthebest, Leslie Jones and others begin describing examples of role reversals, etc., it starts my fantasies racing. Can a scene be consensual and also humiliating? I definitely think so, but there are distinctions to be made. The kind of embarrassment that results from clapping at the wrong moment in a concert or belching in a restaurant is as different from erotic humiliation as a bump on the shin is from the sting of an erotic spanking. However, the kind of humiliation a spankee might experience at being treated like a child or having a spanking witnessed can be highly erotic and consensual, albeit reluctantly consensual. Consent doesn't erase the reluctance and embarrassment.

For me, spanking is about breaking down barriers between adults to promote an intense intimacy. The vast majority of our day is devoted to maintaining dignity and projecting a cool veneer. Those who are brave enough to submit to the indignity of a spanking have relinquished those shields. It makes possible a deeper kind of contact between individuals and I am forever grateful for the courage of spankees in fiction and in life.

I think that there is a huge difference between embarrassment and humiliation. Embarrassment entails a feeling of foolishness and self-consciousness but is not necessarily destructive or permanent whereas, I think, humiliation is an assault upon the spirit and is destructive and long-lasting.

My character, Michael, has often been embarrassed but I don't think that he has ever been humiliated.

I believe that embarrassment is one of the exciting features of a spanking and one which can be enjoyed by both parties. I don't think that this is necessarily true of humiliation.

That's definitely a worthwhile distinction to make, but it's a matter of semantics. You have defined these terms in this way for yourself, and I know other people who have that association with the word "humiliation," but when I talk about erotic humiliation I'm not talking about anything soul-crushing. I think that's also true of the many others on the board who have expressed a preference for elements of humiliation in their spanking fiction. Whether embarrassment or humiliation, there are non-erotic, irritating, even soul-crushing experiences, but there are also sublimely exciting, erotic, and even soul-nourishing experiences. Having your soul crushed is not erotic, but having your ego shattered can be, at least in the right context.

This is exactly what I meant when I talked about doing this stuff in a safe environment.

To get metafictional, I'd say that fictional stories ARE that safe environment for the people who read and write them. The characters who inflict and suffer these indignities are avatars that we can temporarily inhabit to get our recreational ego-shattering without the consequences.

In my opinion, excluding a certain amount of humiliation from a spanking scenario is comparable - to a degree - to exclude the pain from a spanking story. It has to be present in high dose in jurisdicional or institutional public punishments and in small amounts in spankings between lovers, but it should be there. It gives the seasoning to a spanking story the way spices add taste to a rich salad.

I stand with those who appreciate humiliation in a story. I would add 'Mortification' as well. Always seems to make it more naughty and is an intricate part of my love of short spank fiction for 40 years.
Grin!