Burgundy:
if you're not either giving or getting the spanking, what are you doing here?? Get out of my scene.
Well, actually, I don't agree with you, but then we do write in different sub-genres and have different perspectives !
For me, the actual physical spanking may be the least interesting part of the story; it's there because these are spanking stories. Dare I say that I have an aversion to punishment scenes that even approach the harsh? It is what happens before and afterwards where the emotion can be built, the fires stoked, the eroticism (if that is what is being sought) plays out. I have a number of stories where the really juicy parts happen afterwards and third parties are most definitely involved. TTWD.