etbyrd:
I don't a mind a character *attempting* to be stoic, but to me, it wasn't a "good" spanking unless that veneer of self-control is ripped away from the character. In other words, I like 'em where the spankee loses all self-control and melts into a puddle of humiliation and lost dignity.
I broadly agree with that, except it wouldn't apply to all my stories. It is, though, one powerful reason why I write stories in which policewomen or teachers, trying to exert their authority, get spanked and humiliated - but it wouldn't be so much fun if they gave in easily!